update....
I have not updated in weeks, t'is a shame i know.
i try to stay up to date with facebook and e-mails, but lately, i've even resorted to the telephone.
I'm planning this big party for my mother. (who'd have thunk it) and the other day, i called her freind Debbie, whom lives about three hours away. Debbie met Andy once at Mike's funeral in april. before i could even get to the party details, she was asking about Andy and how's she doing and is she ok and so on and so forth.
I' ve always known my mom was somewhat of a gossip...but i never imagined she'd actually be talking so much about my partner. and it's a good thing, my mother calls, and relays that so and so is sending us good vibes or happy thoughts and it's all positivity.
So how is Andy? well after being diagnosed with cancer earlier this summer, she had surgery and recovered well from that. it nearly killer her to sit on the sidelines and watch as the rest of our baseball team played through the late half of the season without our star player.
Although her medical team urges for "the works" Andy wasn't all that thrilled with thier treatment options. after seeing Micheal, the naturopathic doctor, we have a little more insight, and he did shock us by siding with her medical team with some of the treatiment options.
Andy will most likely begin Chemotherapy in late september, we know that our version of "normal" is about to change. as she gets closer and closer to her final decision, she talked to me tonight:
"will you still love me if i have no hair?"
"of course sweetheart, but you have to promise me something..."
"wait a minute...i thought 'I' was the one that gets all the last wishes..." she replied sarcastically.
"pish posh. anyways, promise that you'll still smile. that's what i'm going to need. Things will get worse before they get better...but as long as you can smile at me, you'll be just as beautiful"
we think she'll be ok. it's been two months since her surgery, so it's a risk that she's gone this long already wihtout treatment.
Thank you everyone for the kind words, the messages, the phone calls, the cards, the gifts, the food, the hugs...
I'll never forget the day...i'd come home from work tired as usual and Andy proceeded to open the mail.
"i got a card from Kevin" she said in utter surprise. The text inside from both he and Julie was heartfelt and uplifting. Thank you both.
anwyays, i should go, we're watching a film, and maybe this is yet another reason i lack the time online: i'd rather be cuddled on the couch with my wife and my dog.
Thanks all.