Just for Amber....
I want to begin by sharing a little back ground. In all of Tammy's relationships she was the one that did things. Paid the bills, cooked, cleaned and would be the one to move the relationship forward. It's her nature she can't help it. Well, I wanted to be the one to move things forward for once. Kelly and Ray are the ones who did so in our situations. For a week I'd been talking to the kids and planning a surprise proposal. I had ordered the ring two days prior to our dinner out to see her brother Bruce play. I was very very excited about the whole thing.
We get the to Skyline which is the restaurant Bruce was playing at. We were happy to be out on date night and to get a chance to have a nice Valentine's day dinner together a few days early. I'd finally been feeling better after my first run in with new meds. We've been at dinner maybe a half hour and then the following conversation begins.
Tam: Honey, what size do you wear?
Me: (panic sets in as I just bought a ring) Why??
Tam: I just want to know, what's the size?
Me: Nope, you don't need to know that. Why do you want to know?? (small giggle of panic)
Tam: Honey, put your hand out and up against mine.
Me: No, honey please don't do this. (smooth I know)
Tam: Places the ring box on the table and opens it. Then looks at me.
Me: I begin to tear up and apologize over and over again. I tell her how beautiful the ring is, we learn it is 2 sizes to big and talk about sizing and all that stuff. Then I begin to tell the story of her ring and my plans and how much I wanted to do it first.
Tam: She was afraid that I had second thoughts about us and got nervous.
So, as I'm sure you've seen above during this whole exchange the question was never asked. So, later that night we are cuddling in bed and Tam is half asleep and I tap her on the shoulder. "Honey, I know you're falling asleep but maybe you want to ask me to marry you now?" We laugh and she asks and I say yes.
If you know me at all, you know I tend to screw things up from time to time. It only happened like it did because I had bought a ring and had it all planned. Luckily she loves me and thinks the whole thing is funny and cute. When we got home I showed her the ring that is coming from Hawaii and called the place and had the size adjusted. It should be here in a few more days. She just wants it, but I haven't decided if it will be that easy or if I'm going to give it to her as I planned without the proposal part.
I have to admit one of the best things was the kids reactions since they knew my plans and none of them knew hers. I text Brandi and her response was "you're fucking shitting me".
So my darling Amber, that is the whole messed up story of love! ha ha ha I'm thrilled and it has been fun trying to figure out how simple we can make this and then have a HUGE party after for everyone. I'm beyond thrilled and can't believe how happy I am and how NC feels like my home and that my family is here. I've been her 4 months as of the 16th, it seems longer and not in a bad sense.
We get the to Skyline which is the restaurant Bruce was playing at. We were happy to be out on date night and to get a chance to have a nice Valentine's day dinner together a few days early. I'd finally been feeling better after my first run in with new meds. We've been at dinner maybe a half hour and then the following conversation begins.
Tam: Honey, what size do you wear?
Me: (panic sets in as I just bought a ring) Why??
Tam: I just want to know, what's the size?
Me: Nope, you don't need to know that. Why do you want to know?? (small giggle of panic)
Tam: Honey, put your hand out and up against mine.
Me: No, honey please don't do this. (smooth I know)
Tam: Places the ring box on the table and opens it. Then looks at me.
Me: I begin to tear up and apologize over and over again. I tell her how beautiful the ring is, we learn it is 2 sizes to big and talk about sizing and all that stuff. Then I begin to tell the story of her ring and my plans and how much I wanted to do it first.
Tam: She was afraid that I had second thoughts about us and got nervous.
So, as I'm sure you've seen above during this whole exchange the question was never asked. So, later that night we are cuddling in bed and Tam is half asleep and I tap her on the shoulder. "Honey, I know you're falling asleep but maybe you want to ask me to marry you now?" We laugh and she asks and I say yes.
If you know me at all, you know I tend to screw things up from time to time. It only happened like it did because I had bought a ring and had it all planned. Luckily she loves me and thinks the whole thing is funny and cute. When we got home I showed her the ring that is coming from Hawaii and called the place and had the size adjusted. It should be here in a few more days. She just wants it, but I haven't decided if it will be that easy or if I'm going to give it to her as I planned without the proposal part.
I have to admit one of the best things was the kids reactions since they knew my plans and none of them knew hers. I text Brandi and her response was "you're fucking shitting me".
So my darling Amber, that is the whole messed up story of love! ha ha ha I'm thrilled and it has been fun trying to figure out how simple we can make this and then have a HUGE party after for everyone. I'm beyond thrilled and can't believe how happy I am and how NC feels like my home and that my family is here. I've been her 4 months as of the 16th, it seems longer and not in a bad sense.