Lost down an Orwellian thinkholemephistonApril 1 2005, 07:53:16 UTC
It has always been my thoughts that painful memories should be repressed; and that all situations in my life that are in any way bad that they should be simply forgotten; lost forever in some subconscious hole of my own creation. In a perfect world this theory might actualy work, and it would be possible to censor our own memories. Sadly, this is not the reality in which we find ourselves now is it?
There is only so much that can be done to forget a painful memory, and I've learned from experience that long-term repression is not the best way of dealing with it. It breeds anger, resentment, and spite. The cliche is true; the memory does 'boil' beneath your skin. If you think you are up to the challange of constantly repressing these memories than you are stronger person than I; but know that you risk the sudden outburst of emotion that can come through reminders of your lost love - and boy do those sure suck ass.
My best advice, when dealing with a situation, is more or less what Joe said. Collect your reminders and store them out of mind, for now. But make sure they are not destoryed. There will come a time when you'll want to reflect upon the good times and look past the bitterness that may encompass the present. I know this from experience because I made the mistake of destorying some reminders of my own past, and often long to see them again to reflect upon.
Ultimitly, the choice is yours when it comes to action; and only you can decide what'll work best for you. But it is from my experience that long-term repression (while a great idea on paper) is not something you want to do.
There is only so much that can be done to forget a painful memory, and I've learned from experience that long-term repression is not the best way of dealing with it. It breeds anger, resentment, and spite. The cliche is true; the memory does 'boil' beneath your skin. If you think you are up to the challange of constantly repressing these memories than you are stronger person than I; but know that you risk the sudden outburst of emotion that can come through reminders of your lost love - and boy do those sure suck ass.
My best advice, when dealing with a situation, is more or less what Joe said. Collect your reminders and store them out of mind, for now. But make sure they are not destoryed. There will come a time when you'll want to reflect upon the good times and look past the bitterness that may encompass the present. I know this from experience because I made the mistake of destorying some reminders of my own past, and often long to see them again to reflect upon.
Ultimitly, the choice is yours when it comes to action; and only you can decide what'll work best for you. But it is from my experience that long-term repression (while a great idea on paper) is not something you want to do.
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