Mom update
I'm writing most of these for posterity, so don't feel like you have to comment if you don't want to, although obviously they are all appreciated!
Sunday morning, like I said in my last post, I took my mom to the ER at the hospital. So they did some tests, and we were there until 2 AM ish until they finally put her in a regular room. So that was about 15 hours plus... We were both exhausted, by the end of it, and I had to stop by her house on the way home to pick up some stuff. So by the time I got home, it was 4:30 AM, and I couldn't really sleep until 5ish, and then at 5 the SO got up to go to work. I got a brief nap, but other than that, nothing, so I just went in to work.
I didn't see her for the rest of Monday, because they were doing tests on her, and then they moved her at night to a rehabilitation center. It was funny, because my mom is used to being the one who organizes everything, likes to be a martyr in charge, etc. So even though she was half out of it, she still managed to give directions to the ambulance people who couldn't find the place they were moving her to!
Tuesday I talked to her in the morning, and she seemed her old self. I guess I should go into what she has first though, and what "her old self" means. Basically, she has high blood pressure, which is scary, because it means she's a candidate for a stroke/heart attack - which both of her parents died from. She also had a blocked intestine and urinary tract, so basically, nothing could "go out the right way". That has been mostly fixed, but it's morphed into gastroenteritis. She's also very, very weak. So weak that she didn't eat for half of last week, and it took her two hours to get up the stairs at her house on Friday. And when I was there, she couldn't even get up to go to the bathroom! On top of that, she has back spasms, so every time she moves, she's in great pain. What she was before all this, was a woman who walked 2 miles every day, went to 4 or more social functions in a week (concerts, musicals, art gallery shows, board meetings, parties, reunions, and so much more). I get tired just hearing about her "normal" week! And that's all on top of working 3 days, which her boss wasn't too sure about, because he wanted her there 5 days a week, but she's so efficient that he allows her two days off to live her busy, non-work schedule.
So back to Tuesday... When I spoke with her Tuesday morning, she gave me this long list of things she needed from home, described where each item was and what it looked like, etc. So I thought, great, she's back to normal. So I drove up to see her at lunch, after first stopping and getting everything on her list, but when I saw her, she was a zombie. She was barely there, mentally, barely recognized me, had her lunch all spilled on her, and even the nurse was shocked. So that REALLY worried me! So after calling her nurse, and then other staff members, they all said that it was because she was tired. But this was beyond that! So I went back to work (and each trip is 70 miles round trip, in horrible freeway traffic), and then drove up after work. Well, she was better, so I'm assuming that it's the medication they're giving her, although I never really know! This place they put her in is a horrible place! It's more of an old folks home, and there's some people that are mentally ill/catatonic people, some that just randomly scream, and most look like they're there just waiting to die. It's the kind of place where you'd dump someone if they were rich, and you never wanted to see them again, you just wanted their estate. Although, obviously, we're not rich, and I want to see my mom again. So I'm looking at maybe moving her to a better place that's not such a shit hole.
So today, she had physical therapy and I wasn't able to really talk to her, and I again drove up at lunch, and she was again catatonic. So I basically put her to bed, since she didn't really recognize me and thought she was at home, and then went back to work. I'm near exhaustion with everything that's going on at work, my mom, etc, so the SO went up to see her tonight.
Tomorrow, she has more tests, but hopefully I'll be able to move her into a better place, and things will be ... better! This is one of the very few times in my life that I can honestly say I wish I wasn't an only child...
Work has been really busy, because it's month-end, and getting near year end. Also, I've had to deal with planning for my project's move to Arizona, which I wasn't real gung-ho about. So now, because of all that's happened to my mom, I'm questioning moving to Arizona, or Seattle, where there's a lot of openings in our company, and I could probably get promoted if I moved up there. The thing that sucks though, is that they're going to close down our whole site, so I'll have to leave the company, and probably take a local job that I hate. That being said, I'm thinking it's the right thing to do, even if it's not what I WANT to do...
Today was a good day at work from one perspective! Our server was down all day, so it was like a snow day, only we called it a server day. All we could do is screw around, read, sleep, and get paid for it!
Anyway, hope all is well with you guys!
Sunday morning, like I said in my last post, I took my mom to the ER at the hospital. So they did some tests, and we were there until 2 AM ish until they finally put her in a regular room. So that was about 15 hours plus... We were both exhausted, by the end of it, and I had to stop by her house on the way home to pick up some stuff. So by the time I got home, it was 4:30 AM, and I couldn't really sleep until 5ish, and then at 5 the SO got up to go to work. I got a brief nap, but other than that, nothing, so I just went in to work.
I didn't see her for the rest of Monday, because they were doing tests on her, and then they moved her at night to a rehabilitation center. It was funny, because my mom is used to being the one who organizes everything, likes to be a martyr in charge, etc. So even though she was half out of it, she still managed to give directions to the ambulance people who couldn't find the place they were moving her to!
Tuesday I talked to her in the morning, and she seemed her old self. I guess I should go into what she has first though, and what "her old self" means. Basically, she has high blood pressure, which is scary, because it means she's a candidate for a stroke/heart attack - which both of her parents died from. She also had a blocked intestine and urinary tract, so basically, nothing could "go out the right way". That has been mostly fixed, but it's morphed into gastroenteritis. She's also very, very weak. So weak that she didn't eat for half of last week, and it took her two hours to get up the stairs at her house on Friday. And when I was there, she couldn't even get up to go to the bathroom! On top of that, she has back spasms, so every time she moves, she's in great pain. What she was before all this, was a woman who walked 2 miles every day, went to 4 or more social functions in a week (concerts, musicals, art gallery shows, board meetings, parties, reunions, and so much more). I get tired just hearing about her "normal" week! And that's all on top of working 3 days, which her boss wasn't too sure about, because he wanted her there 5 days a week, but she's so efficient that he allows her two days off to live her busy, non-work schedule.
So back to Tuesday... When I spoke with her Tuesday morning, she gave me this long list of things she needed from home, described where each item was and what it looked like, etc. So I thought, great, she's back to normal. So I drove up to see her at lunch, after first stopping and getting everything on her list, but when I saw her, she was a zombie. She was barely there, mentally, barely recognized me, had her lunch all spilled on her, and even the nurse was shocked. So that REALLY worried me! So after calling her nurse, and then other staff members, they all said that it was because she was tired. But this was beyond that! So I went back to work (and each trip is 70 miles round trip, in horrible freeway traffic), and then drove up after work. Well, she was better, so I'm assuming that it's the medication they're giving her, although I never really know! This place they put her in is a horrible place! It's more of an old folks home, and there's some people that are mentally ill/catatonic people, some that just randomly scream, and most look like they're there just waiting to die. It's the kind of place where you'd dump someone if they were rich, and you never wanted to see them again, you just wanted their estate. Although, obviously, we're not rich, and I want to see my mom again. So I'm looking at maybe moving her to a better place that's not such a shit hole.
So today, she had physical therapy and I wasn't able to really talk to her, and I again drove up at lunch, and she was again catatonic. So I basically put her to bed, since she didn't really recognize me and thought she was at home, and then went back to work. I'm near exhaustion with everything that's going on at work, my mom, etc, so the SO went up to see her tonight.
Tomorrow, she has more tests, but hopefully I'll be able to move her into a better place, and things will be ... better! This is one of the very few times in my life that I can honestly say I wish I wasn't an only child...
Work has been really busy, because it's month-end, and getting near year end. Also, I've had to deal with planning for my project's move to Arizona, which I wasn't real gung-ho about. So now, because of all that's happened to my mom, I'm questioning moving to Arizona, or Seattle, where there's a lot of openings in our company, and I could probably get promoted if I moved up there. The thing that sucks though, is that they're going to close down our whole site, so I'll have to leave the company, and probably take a local job that I hate. That being said, I'm thinking it's the right thing to do, even if it's not what I WANT to do...
Today was a good day at work from one perspective! Our server was down all day, so it was like a snow day, only we called it a server day. All we could do is screw around, read, sleep, and get paid for it!
Anyway, hope all is well with you guys!