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What do you say to someone to cheer them up when you agree with them 100% about what's upsetting them? One of my friends is very lost. He feels the same way that I do about life. I am not a very big fan of life. I'm not suicidal but I don't want to be here or have to deal with life at all and if I were to die today, I would be absoloutely fine with that and it'd pretty much be a reilef. We both have the same perspective on life which is this: We don't want to grow up. We want to be kids forever. Growing up means having to pay out ur ass just to live and what fun is that? How do you get to live your life if you are always struggling to live? I mean, you work your ass off only to give your hard earned money to the government and to bills. Thinking about how many bills I am going to have to pay makes me want to shit my pants.
-House bills, i.e. mortgage/rent
-utilities, i.e. water bills, heating bills, electric bills
-food, gas, clothes, car bills
ughhhh.....Brian says I shouldn't be so pessimistic but How am I supposed to be truly happy with the world that we live in today? I only see this world getting worse before/even if it gets any better. I really just hate this world. I know it's rather sad and all but it's the truth. Sometimes the odds outweigh the hopes. I always tell brian that the odds of such and such happening are minascule and he's all like well why do you think like that? Why can't you just think that there's a chance of it happening rather than something being unlikely to happen? I just don't know.
me: heyyyy what are u doing up so late silly boy?
him: ugh.. cant sleep
me: something troubling you ?
him: nah
me: ok, just checking
him: well.
me: ?
him: i cant seem to accept that im growing up. i miss the days of living in northbridge. being a teenager. i guess thats whats keeping me awake
me: ohhh... yeah growing up does suck, not to make you feel worse or anything but i know what you mean
him: it sucks so bad i just dont think i can do it
me: yeah more responsibility as more time goes on... you can i know you can i believe in you
him: but i dont believe in me
me: why not?
him: no confidence
me: why?
him: i dont know ive never had confidence in myself because all my life ive fucked up
me: but you are finally doing good in life
him: not really im delaying the inevitable
me: like you're going to college and that's something to be proud of
him: im basically just stalling
me: yeah, same here with the whole license and job thing, i wish i didn't have to work at all
him: me either
me: i was sposed to be looking for a job last week and i didn't
him: i thought you had one?
me: i put my 2 weeks notice in but then got fired early
him: ouch
me: so now i need a new one or else i will be kicked out on the streets b/c i have no where else to go so i have no choice, i can't delay anymore you still have some time to be young live it up before u have to pay out ur ass for bills and shit act as immature as possible without getting into too much trouble don't let this time just pass by.. lol i sound really corny
him: no you dont im trying to get insight on the subject its not corny
me: oh ok good then well i say you have another year or 2 until u really have to grow up so yeah
him: i know
me: i wish i could just literally not have to deal with life, i'm not suicidal, i just don't want to be here
him: me too dude
me: i wish there was some way to just shut the world down for a while and just make life stop so you can live in one moment for as long as you want or that the world would just stop when there something that you don't want to deal with
him: yup
me: i cringe at the fact that i am going to have to pay so many bills and shit when i get older ...house bills, utilities bills, car bills, phone bills, internet, cable... it goes on and on... and never seems to end... i used to not want to live past 25
him: i know man i feel the same exact way
me: it just sucks really badly
him: i know
me: i don't understand how life is sposed to be this amazing wonderful, joyous experience b/c all u do is work ur ass off and pay out ur ass
him: i know dude i hate thinking about it i just want to be a kid
me: ditto there was never ne thing to worry about when ur a kid
him: i know
me: hmm yeah so ne ways.. i am sposed to be making u feel better not worse but its hard when i feel the same way, like i am not gonna pretend that growingup has more pros than cons so idk what to do, anything i can do to cheer you u or even say? i do have one thing to say tho that will maybe help you feel better, there will be moments in your life that you will enjoy and at least u can hope for that
him: well . i just dont see what can be so exciting about growing old, getting married, getting a job, working allll daaaayyyyyy, giving all your hard earned money to BILLS, and never enjoying a day of your life
me: well the getting married part soudns good to me b/c at least then you're with someone that you love and i think love is the happiest feeling ever, and think of it this way when you're married, at least theres someone to split the bills with you and once you have someone, you will never have to be/feel alone again
him: i know but thats just one more factor that scares me. i dont even feel like im going to make anyone happy, or find the right person or fall in love. sure it sounds stupid and sure ill 'probably fall in love' but deep down i really dont think i will
me: i used to be the same way, i never ever wanted to have kids or even think i was going to fall in love b/c i was just not a one man type of girl and i could never imagine myself settling down and shit, and i know theres nothing i can say to change the way that you feel about falling in love but i think it will happen you just have to get out more lol. Once you do fall in love, you will be that persons everything and you'll make them happy no matter what
him: i know. everything is made out to be one big happy fantasy, like some fairy tale. but to me its more like a nightmare. i dont think im ever going to make it in life, be succesful or even enjoy being alive after the age of like 20 dude. i feel like ive already failed and i should just quit now and save myself the embarresment
me: well i would really miss you if you weren't around, honestly, i don't think i can handle that, and i know you think you will never do anything or want to live after 20 and such but who knows, i guess thats part of life, worrying lol, guessing and waiting, as much as it sucks, you never know what happens in the future until you live it, and i guess in a way that keeps me going b/c of the fact that something good could happen in the future altho you shouldn't sit back and just wait for something good to happen, b/c i guess thats not much fun
him: yeah i know... its just... i dont know. i just feel so lost. i mean, yeah im in college, but what about after that? i dont know what i want to do, or where i want to go, most people know what they want in life, and what they want to get out of it. i dont. im lost and i dont even know what to do
me: i have the same fucking problem, and thats why i am not even in college lol... i don't know what i want to do, like i have ideas but theres so many choices. Maybe as time goes by you will find something that you want to do or you will find out where you want to go in life, you have time, Many people have problems with feeling lost and i honestly don't know what you can do to fix that or find yourself or even what you want to do/get out of life... i think all you can do is live life and just let it flow as it comes, or u know, sit down and really try and think about something that interests you, such as movies and just think of ur options. There are always many many options, like you've said before, u could always move to florida and work at universal u know? or u could go to some film school and do something like that... just really think about your options
him: yeah but working on movies? it doesnt even seem plausable. its like a wet dream.
me: lol i like that comparison but u never know until you try. You just have to get out there and as they say "work your ass off" and besides who says you can't work on movies? you could do what george romero did... make low budget horror films on ur own and i mean look at him no, hes a huge success, i mean sure i know ur thinking what are the odds, and i think things like that all the time but u will never know until you try.
me: well that's more than my 2 cents and I am sorry if I didn't help you too much but just know that I love you
him: yeah
me: i really wish i could just wash away all your worries
him: me too
-House bills, i.e. mortgage/rent
-utilities, i.e. water bills, heating bills, electric bills
-food, gas, clothes, car bills
ughhhh.....Brian says I shouldn't be so pessimistic but How am I supposed to be truly happy with the world that we live in today? I only see this world getting worse before/even if it gets any better. I really just hate this world. I know it's rather sad and all but it's the truth. Sometimes the odds outweigh the hopes. I always tell brian that the odds of such and such happening are minascule and he's all like well why do you think like that? Why can't you just think that there's a chance of it happening rather than something being unlikely to happen? I just don't know.
me: heyyyy what are u doing up so late silly boy?
him: ugh.. cant sleep
me: something troubling you ?
him: nah
me: ok, just checking
him: well.
me: ?
him: i cant seem to accept that im growing up. i miss the days of living in northbridge. being a teenager. i guess thats whats keeping me awake
me: ohhh... yeah growing up does suck, not to make you feel worse or anything but i know what you mean
him: it sucks so bad i just dont think i can do it
me: yeah more responsibility as more time goes on... you can i know you can i believe in you
him: but i dont believe in me
me: why not?
him: no confidence
me: why?
him: i dont know ive never had confidence in myself because all my life ive fucked up
me: but you are finally doing good in life
him: not really im delaying the inevitable
me: like you're going to college and that's something to be proud of
him: im basically just stalling
me: yeah, same here with the whole license and job thing, i wish i didn't have to work at all
him: me either
me: i was sposed to be looking for a job last week and i didn't
him: i thought you had one?
me: i put my 2 weeks notice in but then got fired early
him: ouch
me: so now i need a new one or else i will be kicked out on the streets b/c i have no where else to go so i have no choice, i can't delay anymore you still have some time to be young live it up before u have to pay out ur ass for bills and shit act as immature as possible without getting into too much trouble don't let this time just pass by.. lol i sound really corny
him: no you dont im trying to get insight on the subject its not corny
me: oh ok good then well i say you have another year or 2 until u really have to grow up so yeah
him: i know
me: i wish i could just literally not have to deal with life, i'm not suicidal, i just don't want to be here
him: me too dude
me: i wish there was some way to just shut the world down for a while and just make life stop so you can live in one moment for as long as you want or that the world would just stop when there something that you don't want to deal with
him: yup
me: i cringe at the fact that i am going to have to pay so many bills and shit when i get older ...house bills, utilities bills, car bills, phone bills, internet, cable... it goes on and on... and never seems to end... i used to not want to live past 25
him: i know man i feel the same exact way
me: it just sucks really badly
him: i know
me: i don't understand how life is sposed to be this amazing wonderful, joyous experience b/c all u do is work ur ass off and pay out ur ass
him: i know dude i hate thinking about it i just want to be a kid
me: ditto there was never ne thing to worry about when ur a kid
him: i know
me: hmm yeah so ne ways.. i am sposed to be making u feel better not worse but its hard when i feel the same way, like i am not gonna pretend that growingup has more pros than cons so idk what to do, anything i can do to cheer you u or even say? i do have one thing to say tho that will maybe help you feel better, there will be moments in your life that you will enjoy and at least u can hope for that
him: well . i just dont see what can be so exciting about growing old, getting married, getting a job, working allll daaaayyyyyy, giving all your hard earned money to BILLS, and never enjoying a day of your life
me: well the getting married part soudns good to me b/c at least then you're with someone that you love and i think love is the happiest feeling ever, and think of it this way when you're married, at least theres someone to split the bills with you and once you have someone, you will never have to be/feel alone again
him: i know but thats just one more factor that scares me. i dont even feel like im going to make anyone happy, or find the right person or fall in love. sure it sounds stupid and sure ill 'probably fall in love' but deep down i really dont think i will
me: i used to be the same way, i never ever wanted to have kids or even think i was going to fall in love b/c i was just not a one man type of girl and i could never imagine myself settling down and shit, and i know theres nothing i can say to change the way that you feel about falling in love but i think it will happen you just have to get out more lol. Once you do fall in love, you will be that persons everything and you'll make them happy no matter what
him: i know. everything is made out to be one big happy fantasy, like some fairy tale. but to me its more like a nightmare. i dont think im ever going to make it in life, be succesful or even enjoy being alive after the age of like 20 dude. i feel like ive already failed and i should just quit now and save myself the embarresment
me: well i would really miss you if you weren't around, honestly, i don't think i can handle that, and i know you think you will never do anything or want to live after 20 and such but who knows, i guess thats part of life, worrying lol, guessing and waiting, as much as it sucks, you never know what happens in the future until you live it, and i guess in a way that keeps me going b/c of the fact that something good could happen in the future altho you shouldn't sit back and just wait for something good to happen, b/c i guess thats not much fun
him: yeah i know... its just... i dont know. i just feel so lost. i mean, yeah im in college, but what about after that? i dont know what i want to do, or where i want to go, most people know what they want in life, and what they want to get out of it. i dont. im lost and i dont even know what to do
me: i have the same fucking problem, and thats why i am not even in college lol... i don't know what i want to do, like i have ideas but theres so many choices. Maybe as time goes by you will find something that you want to do or you will find out where you want to go in life, you have time, Many people have problems with feeling lost and i honestly don't know what you can do to fix that or find yourself or even what you want to do/get out of life... i think all you can do is live life and just let it flow as it comes, or u know, sit down and really try and think about something that interests you, such as movies and just think of ur options. There are always many many options, like you've said before, u could always move to florida and work at universal u know? or u could go to some film school and do something like that... just really think about your options
him: yeah but working on movies? it doesnt even seem plausable. its like a wet dream.
me: lol i like that comparison but u never know until you try. You just have to get out there and as they say "work your ass off" and besides who says you can't work on movies? you could do what george romero did... make low budget horror films on ur own and i mean look at him no, hes a huge success, i mean sure i know ur thinking what are the odds, and i think things like that all the time but u will never know until you try.
me: well that's more than my 2 cents and I am sorry if I didn't help you too much but just know that I love you
him: yeah
me: i really wish i could just wash away all your worries
him: me too