I am a volunteer in Courts so sometimes come into contact with DV victims in DV cases. It's a very strange situation to be in sometimes as I'm giving emotional and practical support to women (and men on rare occasions), sometimes confused themselves, providing evidence against their husband/partners.
I've yet to come across it, but some of my colleges have worked with victims who are prosecuting in court, but walk out with their husbands/partners afterwards to go home...
Anything to do with emotions is a grey area. I'm in two minds with abusers. It is utterly and totally wrong to abuse anyone on the one hand, and for some it is that need for power and control and I find that very chilling. Yet at the same time it's not like that he doesn't care for her, and like I say, Michiru's not stupid and she came from an abusive home so he was her escape. They must have had a time together where he cared and loved her, (Not saying that he doesn't now...it's his obsession and jealousy that is violent) but a lot of the screen play is neglecting that. The jump from the "normal" relationship to the DV was too... random/sudden(?) I don't know if that's the right word...
It's a shame because actually it leaves audiences who don't understand it thinking how stupid Michiru is for staying with him and asking "why can't she just leave?" And in reality, there are women who still love their partners despite, because they DID have a happy period together and probably still do have some periods where everything is apparently fine. For many women, one answer is that they have no where else to go...
Anyway, it's a complex issue, but both of them are doing a good job.
one of the first comments i read after ep 2 aired was, "i can't believe she went back to him", and smn replied to that, "this is a drama. of course she'd do that".
i guess people haven't really understood quite how much this is more than just a simple drama. they fangirl over certain actors and/or actresses, and criticize others, and it stops there.
wow you're amazing to be volunteering like that *admiration* it must be hard to give moral support for people in general. and it must feel scary and frustrating when you see their situations not changing.
Sadly, yes it is one of the downsides of being a court volunteer - you see a lot of cases, victims and witnesses which are really quite distressing. It's even worse when verdicts don't turn out as one expects or as your witnesses want.
However, Courts are actually a really amazing place to volunteer in and I love the work I do. The people you meet and the learning curve is so eye-opening. You really learn to see deeper into issues and to appreciate people more. You often realise as well how NOT black and white things are in crime - it goes far beyond just there being a defendant who is "the bad guy" and the victim who is "the good guy".
~blushes at the admiration~ it's nothing really... ^.^;;;;;;; Most of the time you're just giving them a human response and a listening ear in a surreal and terrible situation and really, that's the most they want.
I've yet to come across it, but some of my colleges have worked with victims who are prosecuting in court, but walk out with their husbands/partners afterwards to go home...
Anything to do with emotions is a grey area. I'm in two minds with abusers. It is utterly and totally wrong to abuse anyone on the one hand, and for some it is that need for power and control and I find that very chilling. Yet at the same time it's not like that he doesn't care for her, and like I say, Michiru's not stupid and she came from an abusive home so he was her escape. They must have had a time together where he cared and loved her, (Not saying that he doesn't now...it's his obsession and jealousy that is violent) but a lot of the screen play is neglecting that. The jump from the "normal" relationship to the DV was too... random/sudden(?) I don't know if that's the right word...
It's a shame because actually it leaves audiences who don't understand it thinking how stupid Michiru is for staying with him and asking "why can't she just leave?" And in reality, there are women who still love their partners despite, because they DID have a happy period together and probably still do have some periods where everything is apparently fine. For many women, one answer is that they have no where else to go...
Anyway, it's a complex issue, but both of them are doing a good job.
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i guess people haven't really understood quite how much this is more than just a simple drama. they fangirl over certain actors and/or actresses, and criticize others, and it stops there.
wow you're amazing to be volunteering like that *admiration* it must be hard to give moral support for people in general. and it must feel scary and frustrating when you see their situations not changing.
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However, Courts are actually a really amazing place to volunteer in and I love the work I do. The people you meet and the learning curve is so eye-opening. You really learn to see deeper into issues and to appreciate people more. You often realise as well how NOT black and white things are in crime - it goes far beyond just there being a defendant who is "the bad guy" and the victim who is "the good guy".
~blushes at the admiration~ it's nothing really... ^.^;;;;;;; Most of the time you're just giving them a human response and a listening ear in a surreal and terrible situation and really, that's the most they want.
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