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Went to a family friend's wedding yesterday.
Before I start, here's a disclaimer.
I am not a raging angry dyke who aggressively hates the patriarchal heteronormative society we live in.
The wedding was nice, I guess. I personally don't believe in marriage (I don't understand the point of it, but I feel that everyone who does deserves the right to get married to the person they love if they want), though I was able to suppress that because it wasn't about me, it was about Robyn and Troy.
The fact that it was outside in the gardens and it was a totally non-religious thing made it easier on me as well. I'm not religious, and while I am able to respect other people's beliefs regarding religion, if religion is involved in something I have to take part in, I feel slightly uncomfortable. Probably because I don't believe in it.
The thing that really annoyed me was what the celebrant was saying. It would have been fine if she said that she was legally allowed to marry them once, but she felt the need to say it a few times throughout the ceremony. Then she decided to outline that "marriage is defined by law as a union between a man and a woman..." etc. Yes, that's what it is in Australia at the moment, but I would have preferred it if she hadn't said that. It reminded me that even if I did believe in marriage, I can't get married.
Apparently at weddings, single women get all depressed because they're single and aren't going to have a beautiful wedding any time soon. Well imagine how a single lesbian woman would feel at a wedding in a country that doesn't allow gay marriage.
Once the celebrant had said that, it made all my cynical views about marriage come to the forefront and I suddenly became incredibly negative about the whole thing.
tl;dr
Reminding me of the lack of equality in Australia regarding same-sex relationships really puts a dampener on things.
Before I start, here's a disclaimer.
I am not a raging angry dyke who aggressively hates the patriarchal heteronormative society we live in.
The wedding was nice, I guess. I personally don't believe in marriage (I don't understand the point of it, but I feel that everyone who does deserves the right to get married to the person they love if they want), though I was able to suppress that because it wasn't about me, it was about Robyn and Troy.
The fact that it was outside in the gardens and it was a totally non-religious thing made it easier on me as well. I'm not religious, and while I am able to respect other people's beliefs regarding religion, if religion is involved in something I have to take part in, I feel slightly uncomfortable. Probably because I don't believe in it.
The thing that really annoyed me was what the celebrant was saying. It would have been fine if she said that she was legally allowed to marry them once, but she felt the need to say it a few times throughout the ceremony. Then she decided to outline that "marriage is defined by law as a union between a man and a woman..." etc. Yes, that's what it is in Australia at the moment, but I would have preferred it if she hadn't said that. It reminded me that even if I did believe in marriage, I can't get married.
Apparently at weddings, single women get all depressed because they're single and aren't going to have a beautiful wedding any time soon. Well imagine how a single lesbian woman would feel at a wedding in a country that doesn't allow gay marriage.
Once the celebrant had said that, it made all my cynical views about marriage come to the forefront and I suddenly became incredibly negative about the whole thing.
tl;dr
Reminding me of the lack of equality in Australia regarding same-sex relationships really puts a dampener on things.