dead birthdays
I don't think it's fair to wish someone happy birthday after they are dead. Though I have done it in the past I see now that it is a little pointless and does not really mean anything. Celebrating birthdays is really only for the person who is having the birthday. So once they are dead it doesn't make much sense to celebrate their birth. Sharing memories of when they were alive is a better use of time than remembering their birthday. Just think they won't get mad at you for not remembering, they won't haunt you for not remembering. just a thought.