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I'm not sure if I'm reading too much into this but maybe you guys can help me figure it out.
Okay so part of my job is to network with other organizations and agencies and refer my clients to services that I do not provide. Over the last couple of months I developed a great rapport with this small group that hosts workshops that aim to develop youth leadership through hip hop while also working towards restorative justice and create discussions about manhood. My clients seemed to enjoy participating in these workshop groups so I schedule them to come every other Tuesday.
So a few days ago I got an email from one of the co-founders of this organization. He wrote about how he's been away on travel and wanted to check in on my clients' progress and then asked when he could come by this week for a visit. Then he went on to ask when would be a good time to drop by the unit while I was there, asked for my number and if he could call me by my first name which he found on our company's email directory I'm guessing. At work we all go by our last name, mine is Flack and to instill respect in our clients they have to refer to us by Mr/Ms/Mrs followed by a last name so I'm obviously known as Mrs.Flack and to my coworkers simply as Flack. I get that it may be kind of weird for someone outside the company coming in and then having to follow the example of the clients and refer to me as Mrs.Flack but meh deal with it because it's obviously not okay for them be calling me by my first name infront of the clients and I definitely do not want my clients to know my first name because they'll totally abuse that knowledge. Anyway before I could respond to the email the phone rings and it's him! My co-worker picks up the call and he apparently asks him when was a good time to stop by the unit and visit the clients in which my co-worker tells him Tuesday evening because Tuesdays are when I set up the group for them to attend. Okay so he gets his question answered yet he asked my co-worker if he could speak to me. So I get on the phone and he tells me he can't come in Tuesday but he can come Wednesday, I told him that's fine the clients will be there in the evening. Then he asks if I'm going to be there Wednesday evening, I said no but my co-worker whom he met last time would be there to oversee things and I will shot her an email to inform her that he'll be coming to the unit to visit the clients and not conduct a workshop group. After that he asks for my number and at this point I became a little frazzled because my co-worker needed my help with something and I observed a client starting to get escalated so I was trying to get off the phone ASAP to go deescalate that client then see whatever else my co-worker needed. So I quickly told the dude he can reach me on this number he's calling and via my work email but then he asked if he could have my direct number, so I repeated that my co-worker will be there when he swings by to see the clients on Wednesday but if anything he could reach me at *gave him my cell phone number without thinking* and quickly got off the phone. After I handled the temper tantrum a client threw and things calmed down I repeated what I read from my email and what was being said during phone conversation with the dude to my male co-worker. He instantly busted out laughing and told me the guy was obviously in love with me. I shrugged it off and thought whatever but now that I think about it things just seemed weird. Why did he want to call me by my first name, why did he need to talk to me after talking with my co-worker and why did he want my 'direct' number when he could reach me via email (which I promptly respond to) and my work number? Then it turns out he did not show up on Wednesday like he said he would and both my coworkers made the conclusion that it was because I wasn't there.
I haven't heard from this guy since but I think he may come next Tuesday to pick up the clients to go do the workshop group. Then I can call him out about not coming on Wednesday for the clients like he said he would and then see how things go. If he starts to ask me personal questions or acts weird in any way I'm going to shut it down.
Okay so part of my job is to network with other organizations and agencies and refer my clients to services that I do not provide. Over the last couple of months I developed a great rapport with this small group that hosts workshops that aim to develop youth leadership through hip hop while also working towards restorative justice and create discussions about manhood. My clients seemed to enjoy participating in these workshop groups so I schedule them to come every other Tuesday.
So a few days ago I got an email from one of the co-founders of this organization. He wrote about how he's been away on travel and wanted to check in on my clients' progress and then asked when he could come by this week for a visit. Then he went on to ask when would be a good time to drop by the unit while I was there, asked for my number and if he could call me by my first name which he found on our company's email directory I'm guessing. At work we all go by our last name, mine is Flack and to instill respect in our clients they have to refer to us by Mr/Ms/Mrs followed by a last name so I'm obviously known as Mrs.Flack and to my coworkers simply as Flack. I get that it may be kind of weird for someone outside the company coming in and then having to follow the example of the clients and refer to me as Mrs.Flack but meh deal with it because it's obviously not okay for them be calling me by my first name infront of the clients and I definitely do not want my clients to know my first name because they'll totally abuse that knowledge. Anyway before I could respond to the email the phone rings and it's him! My co-worker picks up the call and he apparently asks him when was a good time to stop by the unit and visit the clients in which my co-worker tells him Tuesday evening because Tuesdays are when I set up the group for them to attend. Okay so he gets his question answered yet he asked my co-worker if he could speak to me. So I get on the phone and he tells me he can't come in Tuesday but he can come Wednesday, I told him that's fine the clients will be there in the evening. Then he asks if I'm going to be there Wednesday evening, I said no but my co-worker whom he met last time would be there to oversee things and I will shot her an email to inform her that he'll be coming to the unit to visit the clients and not conduct a workshop group. After that he asks for my number and at this point I became a little frazzled because my co-worker needed my help with something and I observed a client starting to get escalated so I was trying to get off the phone ASAP to go deescalate that client then see whatever else my co-worker needed. So I quickly told the dude he can reach me on this number he's calling and via my work email but then he asked if he could have my direct number, so I repeated that my co-worker will be there when he swings by to see the clients on Wednesday but if anything he could reach me at *gave him my cell phone number without thinking* and quickly got off the phone. After I handled the temper tantrum a client threw and things calmed down I repeated what I read from my email and what was being said during phone conversation with the dude to my male co-worker. He instantly busted out laughing and told me the guy was obviously in love with me. I shrugged it off and thought whatever but now that I think about it things just seemed weird. Why did he want to call me by my first name, why did he need to talk to me after talking with my co-worker and why did he want my 'direct' number when he could reach me via email (which I promptly respond to) and my work number? Then it turns out he did not show up on Wednesday like he said he would and both my coworkers made the conclusion that it was because I wasn't there.
I haven't heard from this guy since but I think he may come next Tuesday to pick up the clients to go do the workshop group. Then I can call him out about not coming on Wednesday for the clients like he said he would and then see how things go. If he starts to ask me personal questions or acts weird in any way I'm going to shut it down.