TM-prompt: This is in no way directed at Darla.
What do you look for in a romantic partner?
There's an story about Woody Allen and Mia Farrow, back in the good old days. He had his place on one side of Central Park, she had hers on the other. Woody spoke of love as the emotion he felt when he waved from her window, and knew that she was waving back.
Well. Of course. If there ever were an opportunity to employ the phrase, "Look how that turned out". . . But be fair for a moment. Just because they crashed and burned and he ran off with her stepdaughter, that doesn't mean he was wrong. Honestly, if Woody had followed his own advice and spent less time around Mia (and particularly the kids), maybe they'd still be together, and we'd be gettting more Hannah and her Sisters and less Curse of the Jade Scorpion. (Seriously -- is there any rational explanation for why people keep giving this man money to make movies? Does Wolfram & Hart perhaps have a stake in this?)
So. I don't mean to suggest that true partnership is defined by separation. Rather, I define it as allowing the possibility of separation. Being able to live out our discrete existences, often desiring each other's company, never needing it. Partnership is based on independence. Anything else is sycophancy or parisitism.
And another thing partnership is based on? Trust. If you don't have that, you have nothing. Oh, all right. You may have amazing sex, great fun, and exhilarating conversation. But you're not partners. You're just a couple people playing each other. And the more years you have to figure that out? The quicker it gets old.
There's an story about Woody Allen and Mia Farrow, back in the good old days. He had his place on one side of Central Park, she had hers on the other. Woody spoke of love as the emotion he felt when he waved from her window, and knew that she was waving back.
Well. Of course. If there ever were an opportunity to employ the phrase, "Look how that turned out". . . But be fair for a moment. Just because they crashed and burned and he ran off with her stepdaughter, that doesn't mean he was wrong. Honestly, if Woody had followed his own advice and spent less time around Mia (and particularly the kids), maybe they'd still be together, and we'd be gettting more Hannah and her Sisters and less Curse of the Jade Scorpion. (Seriously -- is there any rational explanation for why people keep giving this man money to make movies? Does Wolfram & Hart perhaps have a stake in this?)
So. I don't mean to suggest that true partnership is defined by separation. Rather, I define it as allowing the possibility of separation. Being able to live out our discrete existences, often desiring each other's company, never needing it. Partnership is based on independence. Anything else is sycophancy or parisitism.
And another thing partnership is based on? Trust. If you don't have that, you have nothing. Oh, all right. You may have amazing sex, great fun, and exhilarating conversation. But you're not partners. You're just a couple people playing each other. And the more years you have to figure that out? The quicker it gets old.