My son's break up
Well I've not done a very good job of writing in this so far, but something happened last night, that I felt the need to share. My son has been going out with the same girl now for a number of years. He fell in love with her at school and they started dating at 16. They stayed together through all their exams and even through college. To begin with I thought it would not last as they were to young, but it did. And now my son is a University, one he chose to be near her, and she has finished college and just started work.
They have been virtually living together since they left school so last night he left as usual to pick her up from work and returned two hours later and said its over, just like that! He said they are separating, but I know it means she has chucked him, he is devastated. And I know this happens the world over and he will get over it, but it hurts me so much to see him in this pain and know there isn't a thing I can do about it, to know that for a long time now he will see Christmas as a time of great pain. It will eventually go away, he will eventually be alright and a lot worst thing happen to people every day. But it doesn't change the reality of what he is going through now, nor my inability to do anything about it. Its as bad as the day his hamster died when he was a little boy, and he looked at me and said 'make it not so Mummy' and then realised for the first time in his life, that mummy is not God and cannot make everything better again.
I will not say what I feel about the girl, she always seemed nice, and she is entitled to change her mind any further comments are withheld on the grounds I am too emotionally involved at the moment.
All I know for certain is that his world is totally shattered at the moment and I now have to help him pick up the pieces, but I feel totally inadequate to the task, and all I want to do is hold him and tell him that mummy will make everything alright.
They have been virtually living together since they left school so last night he left as usual to pick her up from work and returned two hours later and said its over, just like that! He said they are separating, but I know it means she has chucked him, he is devastated. And I know this happens the world over and he will get over it, but it hurts me so much to see him in this pain and know there isn't a thing I can do about it, to know that for a long time now he will see Christmas as a time of great pain. It will eventually go away, he will eventually be alright and a lot worst thing happen to people every day. But it doesn't change the reality of what he is going through now, nor my inability to do anything about it. Its as bad as the day his hamster died when he was a little boy, and he looked at me and said 'make it not so Mummy' and then realised for the first time in his life, that mummy is not God and cannot make everything better again.
I will not say what I feel about the girl, she always seemed nice, and she is entitled to change her mind any further comments are withheld on the grounds I am too emotionally involved at the moment.
All I know for certain is that his world is totally shattered at the moment and I now have to help him pick up the pieces, but I feel totally inadequate to the task, and all I want to do is hold him and tell him that mummy will make everything alright.