Writer's Block: There Can Be Only One
What I believe is that it works for me.
I understand that there are people out there for which polyamory works. To me, it's not just black & white.
For me it is, but to me, it's not.
I understand that there are people who want to love, & be loved, by more than one person.
& that it's not just about having a partner, & then getting to have sex with other people aswell. It's more than that, I guess is what I'm trying to say?
I can't say from experience, but I can say from a bit of research. Which again, I know isn't the same as experiencing it.
I'm more than happy aiming all my love & affection at one person. & having just one person concentrate all their love & affection my way. Infact, it's quite difficult to manage being completely in love with one person, & my job, & trying to keep up with other peoples lives.
I can imagine having more than one partner to be a little bit crazy, or at least for me it would.
I think I'd get hugely paranoid, but I guess (& that is all I can do) that's not what it's about, it's not something you'd do if you know you'd react like that.
I can also imagine it to be highly complicated, when other things come into the equation, who you live with, if you have children, money issues, how other people would react to it.
I don't believe in monogamy because it is the easier option, nor do I believe I'm monogamous because it's what I've been brought up to believe is right, what I do think is that it's what works best for me, & for as long into the future as I can see, it's what I'll be sticking with.
I can't imagine being with anyone else, or anyone else being with Toby, infact, it makes me feel very uncomfortable, & pretty much sick to my stomach. Maybe that's just because he's so freaking adorable & I'm ridiculously lucky to have him to the point where the idea of anyone else having him is just ... horrible.
Probably the most I've written for a Writer's Block in a while, hmmm.
I think I'll update seperately about everything else.
I understand that there are people out there for which polyamory works. To me, it's not just black & white.
For me it is, but to me, it's not.
I understand that there are people who want to love, & be loved, by more than one person.
& that it's not just about having a partner, & then getting to have sex with other people aswell. It's more than that, I guess is what I'm trying to say?
I can't say from experience, but I can say from a bit of research. Which again, I know isn't the same as experiencing it.
I'm more than happy aiming all my love & affection at one person. & having just one person concentrate all their love & affection my way. Infact, it's quite difficult to manage being completely in love with one person, & my job, & trying to keep up with other peoples lives.
I can imagine having more than one partner to be a little bit crazy, or at least for me it would.
I think I'd get hugely paranoid, but I guess (& that is all I can do) that's not what it's about, it's not something you'd do if you know you'd react like that.
I can also imagine it to be highly complicated, when other things come into the equation, who you live with, if you have children, money issues, how other people would react to it.
I don't believe in monogamy because it is the easier option, nor do I believe I'm monogamous because it's what I've been brought up to believe is right, what I do think is that it's what works best for me, & for as long into the future as I can see, it's what I'll be sticking with.
I can't imagine being with anyone else, or anyone else being with Toby, infact, it makes me feel very uncomfortable, & pretty much sick to my stomach. Maybe that's just because he's so freaking adorable & I'm ridiculously lucky to have him to the point where the idea of anyone else having him is just ... horrible.
Probably the most I've written for a Writer's Block in a while, hmmm.
I think I'll update seperately about everything else.