Bureacratic nightmare
Thanks to everyone who commented on my previous post. I would respond to each of you individually but I am so exhausted at the moment, and emotionally drained and lacking of time, that I just have to comment to all of you here at large. Your support to me has meant a lot and I really appreciate it. Reading words of support has been extremely helpful for me, especially knowing that all of you are standing behind me on this.
I went ahead and started the entire reporting process today and encountered a bureacratic nightmare.
Apparently, when the case goes to the judiciary committee, it will be adjudicated by a dean, a faculty member, and a graduate student. Furthermore, I would be required to submit three witnesses. Yes. Witnesses. To an incident happened in the privacy of my own home. So this is just some of the ridiculous bureacratic red tape within a university that pretty much makes it a not only a nightmare, but a political mess considering the fact that these witnesses cannot be anonymous and/or confidential. This leads me to my next point: no one wants to be a witness, because no one wants to get involved in political bullshit that not only is disruptive to the environment of the graduate school, but also does, in fact, interfere with time they can be spending on getting work done.
So. I guess what I am saying is. Essentially I don't have very many options because even if this does go to a panel, it will ultimately become my word vs his. And that's not going to lead anywhere at all.
I've asked instead for an official mediation session where I will impress upon him the need to get alcoholism treatment and he will also be given the option of going on medical leave to deal with his issues, since alcohol is the root of his threatening behavior. I'm hoping that will help.
In the meanwhile, there is a No Contact Order between the two of us, which means he cannot contact me directly or through an intermediary/third party.
Anyway. So there's the update on what's been going on so far.
I went ahead and started the entire reporting process today and encountered a bureacratic nightmare.
Apparently, when the case goes to the judiciary committee, it will be adjudicated by a dean, a faculty member, and a graduate student. Furthermore, I would be required to submit three witnesses. Yes. Witnesses. To an incident happened in the privacy of my own home. So this is just some of the ridiculous bureacratic red tape within a university that pretty much makes it a not only a nightmare, but a political mess considering the fact that these witnesses cannot be anonymous and/or confidential. This leads me to my next point: no one wants to be a witness, because no one wants to get involved in political bullshit that not only is disruptive to the environment of the graduate school, but also does, in fact, interfere with time they can be spending on getting work done.
So. I guess what I am saying is. Essentially I don't have very many options because even if this does go to a panel, it will ultimately become my word vs his. And that's not going to lead anywhere at all.
I've asked instead for an official mediation session where I will impress upon him the need to get alcoholism treatment and he will also be given the option of going on medical leave to deal with his issues, since alcohol is the root of his threatening behavior. I'm hoping that will help.
In the meanwhile, there is a No Contact Order between the two of us, which means he cannot contact me directly or through an intermediary/third party.
Anyway. So there's the update on what's been going on so far.