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Yesterday Glenda and I were talking about relationship stuff and things we find attractive about people, that kind of thing. It kind of came up because she has a few guys on the go right now and it's all a bit confusing. Basically she really likes this guy named Cardy (his nickname not his real name) and there is another guy named Josh who is really interested in Glenda and who she has been talking with a lot recently.
Cardy has basically told Glenda that he doesn't really feel the same way about her. I mean they have slept together but Cardy is not interested in a relationship with Glenda. And Josh is really into Glenda but she isn't all the interested in him.
So when she and I were talking she mentioned that part of the reason that she likes Cardy so much better than Josh is probably to do with the fact that he isn't interested and she wants what she can't have.
I find it kind of... odd I guess. I mean I have heard this before, in fact I know a lot of people go out of their way to not act interested because they know some people will be more attracted to them if they do that. But I just don't get it.
I can't tell if I am just weird or not, but personally the more interested someone seems to be in me the more likely I am to be interested in them. When people act distant and aloof and not interested I get bored with them and just move on. I mean either they are: A) Not interested, in which case I have no desire to try and change someone's mind about me. or B) They are acting not interested to try and seem cool and aloof or whatever. And to me that just means they can't be forward with their feelings. That to me would be a MAJOR problem - partially because I am so literal - because if someone isn't forward with me about their feelings towards me I assume they don't have any.
I just don't get why anyone would purposely want that. Why they would want someone who didn't want them/was pretending not to want them. I get the whole, "I like a challenge" thing but really, aren't relationships challenging enough? Plus I mean... wouldn't you end up always slightly discontent because you would either never get the person you wanted, or want them less when you finally did get them.
People confuse meee.
Cardy has basically told Glenda that he doesn't really feel the same way about her. I mean they have slept together but Cardy is not interested in a relationship with Glenda. And Josh is really into Glenda but she isn't all the interested in him.
So when she and I were talking she mentioned that part of the reason that she likes Cardy so much better than Josh is probably to do with the fact that he isn't interested and she wants what she can't have.
I find it kind of... odd I guess. I mean I have heard this before, in fact I know a lot of people go out of their way to not act interested because they know some people will be more attracted to them if they do that. But I just don't get it.
I can't tell if I am just weird or not, but personally the more interested someone seems to be in me the more likely I am to be interested in them. When people act distant and aloof and not interested I get bored with them and just move on. I mean either they are: A) Not interested, in which case I have no desire to try and change someone's mind about me. or B) They are acting not interested to try and seem cool and aloof or whatever. And to me that just means they can't be forward with their feelings. That to me would be a MAJOR problem - partially because I am so literal - because if someone isn't forward with me about their feelings towards me I assume they don't have any.
I just don't get why anyone would purposely want that. Why they would want someone who didn't want them/was pretending not to want them. I get the whole, "I like a challenge" thing but really, aren't relationships challenging enough? Plus I mean... wouldn't you end up always slightly discontent because you would either never get the person you wanted, or want them less when you finally did get them.
People confuse meee.