It's like learning to walk all over again.
Since I've been single for awhile(years), and finally moving to Seattle, I figured it would be good to actually learn how to date, because I've never actually DONE that. Man, I've got some learning. No joke. I'm a little embarrassed at the prospect, being in my early thirties and all, but I spent the bulk of my twenties buried in a computer screen, and barely managing the on/off relationship I was having at the time. This kind of thing is long overdue, and it has been a failing on my part socially, to fix this. With that said, I will turn to good ol' trial, error, and analysis. I know, it sounds boring and robot-like(it is), but I need this. I feel like it's the only way I can build 'understanding' in this regard.
Lessons in Rejection:
I spoke to three different women from three (somewhat)different social outings. One was at a bar, the others were house parties. For each person, I would be direct with sexual intentions. By direct, I mean, 'Nice shoes, wanna fuck?' direct. This is probably the rudest, ballsiest gesture I could think of. I went in with the expectation of serious humiliation with this kind of 'tactic'. Honestly, I think the worst answer I got was"Hmmm... naaa not really." Each answer was succeeded with kind of a short laugh. One of those'that was from left field' type of laughs.
Now here I was, thinking that this was some gut wrenching experience. My personal experience in my(near distant) past told me this, but things were very different this time. I honestly have no idea what it is, but it's very different. Honestly, if this is par for the course as far as rejection, I can handle a few thousand.
I won't, however, use that 'direct' type of approach. It doesn't feel natural. I'd really like to get to know the person I'm interested in more.
Lessons in Rejection:
I spoke to three different women from three (somewhat)different social outings. One was at a bar, the others were house parties. For each person, I would be direct with sexual intentions. By direct, I mean, 'Nice shoes, wanna fuck?' direct. This is probably the rudest, ballsiest gesture I could think of. I went in with the expectation of serious humiliation with this kind of 'tactic'. Honestly, I think the worst answer I got was"Hmmm... naaa not really." Each answer was succeeded with kind of a short laugh. One of those'that was from left field' type of laughs.
Now here I was, thinking that this was some gut wrenching experience. My personal experience in my(near distant) past told me this, but things were very different this time. I honestly have no idea what it is, but it's very different. Honestly, if this is par for the course as far as rejection, I can handle a few thousand.
I won't, however, use that 'direct' type of approach. It doesn't feel natural. I'd really like to get to know the person I'm interested in more.