Stretching + Parents

[yizzerg]

A recent post here made me think a little bit. I've heard a lot about people made to stop by their parents, but I wonder if it's really that necessary. Mine certainly didn't know anything about it until I told them. With the stretching process as gradual as it is, it seems to me that unless your parents inspect the size of your earlobes often they

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[thestefle]

there are some parents that will never "let you do what you want." like mine. they will freak out, and i'm 22. i'd rather just avoid the unnecessary drama.

[yizzerg]

Well that's why I'm asking really. My parents have no issue with it but I know some do, and it seems that if someone simply takes it slowly and doesn't make it into an issue they can escape unscathed.

[yizzerg]

You're making a very valid point and I don't mean any disrespect, but I disagree. Parents aren't stupid but the majority of parents who are against body mods know very little about them and wouldn't notice the difference between an 8g colorfront and a post earring with a large round front unless they could see the hole itself (which is obviously unlikely with a solid plug).

I'm trying to emphasize stretching slowly if you live with parents/guardians who would be against it. It could be construed as being sneaky or disrespectful but if you're taking the time to remain at smaller sizes to avoid arguments you are in a way being considerate of their rules.

[yizzerg]

That's like saying that if your parents are against you smoking pot in their house, you're "in a way being considerate of their rules" if you only do it when they're not home, in front of the open window, and Febreze afterward.

I disagree with that analogy. Smoking pot is illegal whereas stretching is not, and smoking in general will interfere with a public space.

I agree with you that if one is forbidden directly from doing something, it's entirely disrespectful to follow through anyway. But I don't see anything wrong with avoiding the conflict completely by being discreet.

[yizzerg]

There's nothing wrong with waiting until you're on your own. With facial piercings or large tattoo work, I think that's definitely what should be done. But considering how gradual the process of stretching is/should be I think it's a much smaller issue. Sure, parents will figure out sometime, but hopefully by the time your lobes are large enough for it to be noticeable you'll be either of age or on your own, and that's a completely different argument.

[thestefle]

you're assuming that parents won't have a hold over you after you are out of the house. sure you can respect their rules when you are in their house because you "have to." but, doesn't the real respect show through when you continue to care about their wishes when you aren't necessarily obligated to? i think that there is a time when you just have to weigh your own desires against theirs. i, personally, have taken my parents argument as to why i shouldn't modify into consideration and found it to be mostly based on misconceptions and naivety and so i have chosen to go ahead with it. it was a hard decision because even though i am an adult on my own, i still respect my parents and their wishes and they definitely have some sort of hold over me still.

[crimsontwylite]

...wouldn't notice the difference between an 8g colorfront and a post earring with a large round front unless they could see the hole itself (which is obviously unlikely with a solid plug).

My mom can't see that well at all and she can tell the difference between a color front and a post earring. After I started stretching, she like to see (if we get close enough to someone) if she can tell if someone has stretched lobes or not, and she's pretty good at it, for being a legally blind woman.

[eye_spied]

i agree with this, even if im in the minority too.
at 16 i got a butterfly on my lower back.
*forehead slap*