Ok seriously.... this is her live journal. Her place to vent, to rage, to scream if she so chose.
This isn't the "real" world with her having a raving fit in front of everyone. And even if it were, she has the right to talk about her problems freely.
A girl needs to be able to complain to her friends, and they nod, tell her they understand, or say nothing at all. Not to judge her. She is not asking us to solve her problems.
Calling it "stressing," or "freaking out," or reproaching it in any way doesn't make anyone feel better. It makes them feel like no one understands and they can't even vent.
Meri is not asking us to solve her problems... she's just asking us to listen, to read, to understand that she has these feelings and she just needs to talk about them. Only by acknowledging things can one be free to release them and let them go. But when anger strikes, or frustration, denying those emotions make them fester, turn inward, and then become poisonous.
If I were dealing with this on a regular basis, when I paid money to be EXPOSED to this crap, I would be pissed too. People place such high hopes in sites such as this... that makes the behavior ten times worse than if it were on AOL. I'm not saying that it won't happen -- obviously it does, and it's to be expected. I am saying that those factors make dealing with it that much more frustrating. And yes conversation can be controlled... but that doesn't mean you're not going to have angry, frustrated feelings about it! Everyone has a threshold. When it's reached, one should be allowed to vent. Personally, anyone told me to stop "stressing" about it would piss me off even more. I'm going to bet Meri would feel the same way. So instead of finding relief from writing out her feelings, they only grow. Is that helpful? Is that making her feel better?
Oh, by the way, responding to these pervs with suggestions like this tend to ENCOURAGE, not deter. Trust me.
When I was young, my parents always told me that I was being "too emotional" or "freaking out over nothing." Let me say, when people do that, it only makes you feel worse. It's called belittling -- and no one has the right to do it. And I will defend Meri's right to bitch all she wants.
This isn't the "real" world with her having a raving fit in front of everyone. And even if it were, she has the right to talk about her problems freely.
A girl needs to be able to complain to her friends, and they nod, tell her they understand, or say nothing at all. Not to judge her. She is not asking us to solve her problems.
Calling it "stressing," or "freaking out," or reproaching it in any way doesn't make anyone feel better. It makes them feel like no one understands and they can't even vent.
Meri is not asking us to solve her problems... she's just asking us to listen, to read, to understand that she has these feelings and she just needs to talk about them. Only by acknowledging things can one be free to release them and let them go. But when anger strikes, or frustration, denying those emotions make them fester, turn inward, and then become poisonous.
If I were dealing with this on a regular basis, when I paid money to be EXPOSED to this crap, I would be pissed too. People place such high hopes in sites such as this... that makes the behavior ten times worse than if it were on AOL. I'm not saying that it won't happen -- obviously it does, and it's to be expected. I am saying that those factors make dealing with it that much more frustrating. And yes conversation can be controlled... but that doesn't mean you're not going to have angry, frustrated feelings about it! Everyone has a threshold. When it's reached, one should be allowed to vent. Personally, anyone told me to stop "stressing" about it would piss me off even more. I'm going to bet Meri would feel the same way. So instead of finding relief from writing out her feelings, they only grow. Is that helpful? Is that making her feel better?
Oh, by the way, responding to these pervs with suggestions like this tend to ENCOURAGE, not deter. Trust me.
When I was young, my parents always told me that I was being "too emotional" or "freaking out over nothing." Let me say, when people do that, it only makes you feel worse. It's called belittling -- and no one has the right to do it. And I will defend Meri's right to bitch all she wants.
So go on Meri. Bitch away.
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