words I wish to see lived into abundant truth
The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down all boundaries;
on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the
guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging
of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual
consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development.
But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite
distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they
succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the
possibility of always seeing each other as a whole
and before an immense sky. -Rilke
on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner appoints the other to be the
guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each other the greatest possible trust. A merging
of two people is an impossibility, and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual
consent that robs one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development.
But once the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite
distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them, if they
succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives them the
possibility of always seeing each other as a whole
and before an immense sky. -Rilke