Decisions, decisions
TSA called to schedule my pre-employment physical and drug screening. When I interviewed, I'd been told they don't schedule that unless my background/credit check passed. So I guess that's one less thing to worry about...
Had another job offer, working with autism students at a private school in Richmond. Seems like a really good offer, about equal with the TSA/Vermont one. We are waiting to hear back about a few other questions we had regarding the job. It sounded really good, but now that we are trying to learn some more details, it seems like they are less eager to get back to us and hire me, when they were really enthusiastic in person just yesterday.
My afternoon job let me go when I got back from going to Vermont for the interview. They had okay'ed me for the trip before I left. I got back and they said, "oh, you've been absent too much, we can't have that, you're fired". Uhm, if that was going to be an issue, why did you say it was okay for me to have the time off in the first place? WTF? So now I'm basically out of work. I am on the sub list for Santa Cruz County, but have only had a couple of calls. Nothing frequent enough to pay the bills. So we need to go with one of these two job offers. They both pay really decently and offer medical/dental benefits for me and her.
But Novim is freaking out about the possibility of my moving across the country without her. After wanting me to go when I left for the interview, she has changed her mind and doesn't want me to be so far away. But it is a really good opportunity for us. However, it would mean she would be left here for at least a year, as she needs to stay and finish school first. Another option would be for her to transfer to a school there, but then it would take her longer to get a degree because their degree programs require specilization within the field, and SJSU's program is all generalized. And she just found out today that she did not pass her background investigation for state parks. We are unclear as to why, since that should have been a shoe-in for her. So now she's really upset, and ready to just quit school and pack it up and go to Vermont. I am not sure that is a good idea, but I think if she stays and finishes here or transfers and finishes there then it would be okay.
And to top it all off, I need to get a new, or newish, car. Mine is ready to cash in its chips. I doubt it would make the journey across country, and it certainly wouldn't withstand the commute to Richmond daily until we moved closer. I want a Prius; but I would settle for something inexpensive so long as it is new. I don't want to have to rebuy a car in 5 years just because I wanted to pay less today. I mean, what is the point of paying 11k now and having to do the same in 5 years, when I could pay 22k now and not have to replace the car for at least 10+ years? Same cost, less problems, and I get the car I prefer. Besides, I am tired of always having old used cars. For once, I'd like a new car! I might even settle for an '06 or '07... But this is causing more friction between us, because while she understands the need for a replacement vehicle, we are having trouble seeing eye to eye on what to replace my car with. She is pushing for older used and doesn't want to listen to why I want something newer. I don't see why she should have a say in it if I'm the one paying for it and driving it and she isn't co-signing on it. If she had a stake in the car, that might be different... *sigh* I just don't know anymore.
I don't know what we should do with everything. It is a very hard decision to make- whether to stay in CA or go elsewhere. Either way, we will likely be moving. Either up toward Richmond, or all the way out to Vermont. It's just so expensive out here. We will make and be able to save more if we go out of state. But she doesn't want to move far away from her family. I don't understand her need to be so close. It isn't like we go hang out with them all the time. We would likely still visit them about as often as we do now. But she doesn't deal well with change, so that is probably the larger part of it. We are barely making it right now, and we really need to take the opportunity that will allow us to get where we want and save along the way instead of just living hand to mouth like we have been.
It is just hard right now. I don't know what we are going to do. I'm worried. Novim is scared. We are just a pair of basketcases at this point.
Had another job offer, working with autism students at a private school in Richmond. Seems like a really good offer, about equal with the TSA/Vermont one. We are waiting to hear back about a few other questions we had regarding the job. It sounded really good, but now that we are trying to learn some more details, it seems like they are less eager to get back to us and hire me, when they were really enthusiastic in person just yesterday.
My afternoon job let me go when I got back from going to Vermont for the interview. They had okay'ed me for the trip before I left. I got back and they said, "oh, you've been absent too much, we can't have that, you're fired". Uhm, if that was going to be an issue, why did you say it was okay for me to have the time off in the first place? WTF? So now I'm basically out of work. I am on the sub list for Santa Cruz County, but have only had a couple of calls. Nothing frequent enough to pay the bills. So we need to go with one of these two job offers. They both pay really decently and offer medical/dental benefits for me and her.
But Novim is freaking out about the possibility of my moving across the country without her. After wanting me to go when I left for the interview, she has changed her mind and doesn't want me to be so far away. But it is a really good opportunity for us. However, it would mean she would be left here for at least a year, as she needs to stay and finish school first. Another option would be for her to transfer to a school there, but then it would take her longer to get a degree because their degree programs require specilization within the field, and SJSU's program is all generalized. And she just found out today that she did not pass her background investigation for state parks. We are unclear as to why, since that should have been a shoe-in for her. So now she's really upset, and ready to just quit school and pack it up and go to Vermont. I am not sure that is a good idea, but I think if she stays and finishes here or transfers and finishes there then it would be okay.
And to top it all off, I need to get a new, or newish, car. Mine is ready to cash in its chips. I doubt it would make the journey across country, and it certainly wouldn't withstand the commute to Richmond daily until we moved closer. I want a Prius; but I would settle for something inexpensive so long as it is new. I don't want to have to rebuy a car in 5 years just because I wanted to pay less today. I mean, what is the point of paying 11k now and having to do the same in 5 years, when I could pay 22k now and not have to replace the car for at least 10+ years? Same cost, less problems, and I get the car I prefer. Besides, I am tired of always having old used cars. For once, I'd like a new car! I might even settle for an '06 or '07... But this is causing more friction between us, because while she understands the need for a replacement vehicle, we are having trouble seeing eye to eye on what to replace my car with. She is pushing for older used and doesn't want to listen to why I want something newer. I don't see why she should have a say in it if I'm the one paying for it and driving it and she isn't co-signing on it. If she had a stake in the car, that might be different... *sigh* I just don't know anymore.
I don't know what we should do with everything. It is a very hard decision to make- whether to stay in CA or go elsewhere. Either way, we will likely be moving. Either up toward Richmond, or all the way out to Vermont. It's just so expensive out here. We will make and be able to save more if we go out of state. But she doesn't want to move far away from her family. I don't understand her need to be so close. It isn't like we go hang out with them all the time. We would likely still visit them about as often as we do now. But she doesn't deal well with change, so that is probably the larger part of it. We are barely making it right now, and we really need to take the opportunity that will allow us to get where we want and save along the way instead of just living hand to mouth like we have been.
It is just hard right now. I don't know what we are going to do. I'm worried. Novim is scared. We are just a pair of basketcases at this point.