Update 3: In continuing the drama...
So I ask ex-roommate if she sent the letter to co-worker yet and she said she did. She did not send me what she ultimately sent to her. I asked her if she received a reply. She said she did and forward it to me. She said that co-worker took it really well. I was impressed....until I read the reply.
Co-worker's reply to Ex-Roommate:
#1 I understand what you are saying, however, I was trying to be nice about telling her about what the others were saying for the fact that they were that upset that they didn't want to approach her. So, I'm sorry if I was trying to be nice. Her and I have talked, not about our "issue" but work related and managed to have a laugh or two in the conversation. At least we are trying to make strides to recoup what relationship we may have at this point.
#2 I am a confrontational person to begin with, so when some people talk to me or I talk to them, they can tell that in the tone of my voice. I also do not like getting pushed around, hence the situation I'm in with my brother's step mother...What a mess that is...
I know what you are trying to say, but understand my point that I was only approaching Stormdancer advising her that so and so said what and that she was the one that "didn't give a shit" about it. I was not trying to "attack" her, however just letting her know that there are people out there that are upset with her actions that they did not want to approach her and I took it upon myself as as her friend to tell her what was going on. So if she was the one that took me the wrong way, I'm sorry. But I was just being nice about it...
My response to Co-worker's reply:
That is the biggest bunch of crap I've ever read. She didn't tell me someone was mad at me until I asked her twice what was wrong with her because of her attitude toward me. She treated me like shit and when I asked for a reason why, I got a response that someone else is mad at me. That still doesn't explain why SHE treated me poorly. She wasn't trying to do anything nice at all. If she was trying to be nice, she would have told me before I got the silent treatment and had to ask twice what was wrong. She would have approached me to tell me that "by the way, so and so is mad at you. I think you should talk to her." And that doesn't explain why she just up and left from the table when she was done and went back to her desk without a word.
1. person that was mad at me wasn't really mad at me. She was mad at the world that day. Co-worker took what she said out of context and blew it out of proportion.
2. I tried to explain to her that should couldn't have been mad at me at the time. I tried to tell her what the procedures were for that file. She interrupted me, while throwing up her hands, and proclaimed that she doesn't do the file, doesn't care about the file, and doesn't want to know about the file. Does that sound like someone is trying to help me or not listen to me?
3. What about all the other reasons why she was upset that she wrote you? She barely mentioned this in her email to you. She knows she's in trouble, she can't get away with it with you, and is trying to save her ass. All those other things she said was making her upset still have no weight as to why she treated me like crap, but she's not mentioning that now because she knows they hold no weight. This issue is the closest think that could possibly look like it holds weight.
4. Why is her #2 issue again have nothing to do with me? Her brother's step mother pushing her around is my fault how? And I sure as hell didn't push her around at all. I'm the one that lets her walk on me. This still does not explain her attitude and rude behavior toward me. All it does is give her an excuse to be in a pissy mood, which apparently is ok to take out on me.
And this shows that either she truely doesn't see or understand what she did wrong, or does know what she did was wrong and is trying to twist it to make it look like I misunderstood her on purpose so you won't be mad at her.
Have not received reply from ex-roommate. I should have seen it coming. Of COURSE it's not HER fault. I just MISUNDERSTOOD her!!!??!?! OMG, this is why I fucking hate women and have friends with guys instead. This little issue from which I have removed myself from to prevent any more drama, as now gotten me so mad that I don't even want to talk to her at all for any reason regardless if it's for work. I can't stand people who lie. Can't stand it or tolerate it at all. And if she's not lying to try and save her own ass, she truely is hopeless in ever being able to see how she treats people. The world does not revolve around her. But she refuses to believe that, even when ex-roommate tells her so.
My brain is oozing out of my ear, making my face sticky.