Open relationship
I've been feeling guilty about feelings lately. When you think about it and think about your ability to control feelings and initial reactions to things, it's kind of ridiculous. I am not doing anything wrong and Sara will whole-heartedly agree with this.
This also got me thinking about coming out of the closet in general and how both Sara and I came out while in a super secret relationship. Neither of us have been with a lot of people to begin with, now we're faced with things we want to explore, but can't. It seems pretty harsh to me.
And then I wondered and assumed that Sara was having these same guilty feelings, which was a problem for me. I don't want to hold her back and I don't want restraints. I realize that I'm confident and comfortable enough to say, "Be with whoever you want to be with and it will be all right with me, because I know how we both feel and I know how we'll both end up." So I decided to pitch the idea of an open relationship to her. I had her experimenting with girls in mind, but I'm not going to limit it to just that. I don't see why I would. If there were any danger of her leaving me for someone, what difference does it make whether it's a man or a woman. The fear of that happening isn't there to begin with, so it's not gender specific.
I learned that she was having similar feelings about this, so here we are. We're officially in a very serious, open relationship.
This also got me thinking about coming out of the closet in general and how both Sara and I came out while in a super secret relationship. Neither of us have been with a lot of people to begin with, now we're faced with things we want to explore, but can't. It seems pretty harsh to me.
And then I wondered and assumed that Sara was having these same guilty feelings, which was a problem for me. I don't want to hold her back and I don't want restraints. I realize that I'm confident and comfortable enough to say, "Be with whoever you want to be with and it will be all right with me, because I know how we both feel and I know how we'll both end up." So I decided to pitch the idea of an open relationship to her. I had her experimenting with girls in mind, but I'm not going to limit it to just that. I don't see why I would. If there were any danger of her leaving me for someone, what difference does it make whether it's a man or a woman. The fear of that happening isn't there to begin with, so it's not gender specific.
I learned that she was having similar feelings about this, so here we are. We're officially in a very serious, open relationship.