Re: the weight debate building. (this is about eating issues, not medical conditions)

[stoney321]

As someone who was groomed by her mother to have a specific body type, and ridiculed publicly when I didn't have that, as someone who was told by her father that it looked like I had a tire in my waist band, as someone that was an exercise bulimic in her late teens and was grey-faced and wan from being unhealthy, as someone who watched her best

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[siapom]

We don't know each other very well, but... *hugs you like crazy*

Thank you! That is such a kind and intelligent post about a very difficult and personal topic. I, personally, fall on the overweight side of the scale, just as my mother did. And her mother before her. Eating to relieve stress or boredom was a way of life growing up, so I have to actively fight those habits. Actually, my weight doesn't ordinarily bother me as I've never had any medical problems to accompany it. (HBP, etc.) However, I've just come through an exceptionally stressful period in my life and it really shows. (5'4" and about 250 lbs) Not good. At all. The worst part is that I've been less happy and less healthy ever since that last 30 lbs got packed on, and I know it's causing a lot of my backaches, etc. (I mean, really. Do you know what extra weight does to a girl that is a 36D when she's thinner?? Again, not good.)

So, I've been toying with the idea of starting a new "lifestyle" program. I need to get it solidified in my head so that I'll stick with it, but I'm *holds thumb and finger really close together* this close to being ready. In the past I've had success with food diaries and regular workouts, so I'm going to take that route. I can't really afford a gym membership, so aerobics videos and an exercise ball with tension cords are my first step. I've already started drinking more water since that is one of the hardest steps for me, because I'm a soda fanatic. But, it's important, so I'll sacrifice. lol I'm thinking of it as my "One Year and One Day" plan. I don't want to set any really stringent goals other than to be healthier and happier one year and one day from the day I begin.

Oh, and I came across this site which seems to have some interesting challenges and features. I'm hoping it helps me with my motivation. :)

Again, thanks for the post!

[seamonkey_mags]

Hah, jesus, that's one reason for me to want to lose some weight. The boobs are proportionally big no matter what size I am, but as I gain they get bigger. So I'm up to 36DD. Bleeeeeeeeeergh. I hate not being able to fit into dresses and things.

[siapom]

omg. No kidding. I about cried when I realized I'd be much more comfy if I just gave in and bought the 44DD. Eeks.

[stoney321]

*hugs you back!*

I think most of us learned our bad eating habits at home, and usually from well-intentioned moms wanting to show us love. We all know better now, though, which is good.

Stress; what a terrible (and easy) way to put o weight. You're in good company here, btw. :)

you know, just moving your body around is good. You don't *have* to belong to a gym and have expensive equipment. They don't use that in the army and just look at those hot, sexy men. Hee! But whatever makes YOU feel good about yourself, that's the right plan.

Your One year and one day plan? GENIUS. (And you'll be surprised at how much you lose when you cut way back on soda. Even the diet ones! That was SO HARD for me. GOOD LUCK!) *hugs you more*

[siapom]

I fully agree that my mom was well intentioned. She cooked for a LOT of people and always tried to please everybody. And, to be honest, we are not a small people in general. Bigger builds, etc; so, it's not a hard trap to just fall into even without the parental influence.

I also agree that stress is truly evil. As is money...when you don't have it.

Thank you so much for the encouragement. It means a lot. :D *hugs you*