Comments | stoney321: Re: the weight debate building. (this is about eating issues, not medical conditions)

stoney321

Re: the weight debate building. (this is about eating issues, not medical conditions)

Sep 16, 2008 11:37

As someone who was groomed by her mother to have a specific body type, and ridiculed publicly when I didn't have that, as someone who was told by her father that it looked like I had a tire in my waist band, as someone that was an exercise bulimic in her late teens and was grey-faced and wan from being unhealthy, as someone who watched her best ( Read more... )

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drusplace September 16 2008, 17:56:18 UTC

Did I miss something? Why are we debating the weight thing (or not debating ( ... )

bitchygrrl September 16 2008, 18:09:25 UTC

I think that when people go up to very thin people and say that it's so rude. I've never gotten why people think that's okay. My cousin still gets that. She's 39 5'8 and has always weighed about 120. She eats normally, always has, her parents are also very thin, it's just genetics. She's finally okay with her size but people still come up and make those sort of remarks to her. It's thoughtless and it's hurtful.

drusplace September 16 2008, 18:26:35 UTC

Mine's genetic too. My grandmother was always very tiny.

Thank you for your comment. And I'm sorry your cousin gets those remarks made to her.

bitchygrrl September 16 2008, 19:15:07 UTC

YW it's like people have this real bias about it. I am especially on the lookout for that because my neice who is 7 is rather thin. She was a premature baby but thankfully she is healthy now, just thin. She doesn't like sweets but she eats a very healthy diet. Already people have accuse my brother and her mom of underfeeding her. My brother is a cook he doesn not underfeed. It's like it never ends.

poshcat September 16 2008, 18:28:51 UTC

There was another LJ where this was brought up, and some yelling occurred, I do believe.

I'm also small. I'm 5'2" and about 122 lbs, which is the most I've weighed when not making babies. I like this weight much better than how I looked/felt when I was 100 lbs, too. And it bugs the ever lovin' daylights out of me when people make comments about my weight. "How can you be cold in this heat? You need some meat on those bones. Is that all you're going to eat?" SHUT UP. I don't comment on how much you weigh, don't comment on how much I weigh. Sheesh.

drusplace September 16 2008, 18:35:18 UTC

"There was another LJ where this was brought up, and some yelling occurred, I do believe.

Of all the things to argue about...

"I don't comment on how much you weigh, don't comment on how much I weigh"

EXACTLY!

stoney321 September 16 2008, 18:49:10 UTC

I mentioned above that this is spinning off of a comment made by Alton Brown on a board.

Oh, man, that people think they can cluck and scowl at skinny women! My BFF is incredibly tiny, but she is the strongest, most fit person I know and people think it's okay to ask her what she weighs. She usually turns it around and asks them. "You, first." :D

and you're exactly right: they're putting their own fears/issues on your shoulders. God, I've had people tell me that if they didn't like me, they'd hate me because I'm fit. <-- WTF?

And honestly, your weight doesn't matter as long as you're getting enough food, the good kind, and you can move your body. Haters to the left! *hugs you*

rikibeth September 16 2008, 18:52:18 UTC

And honestly, your weight doesn't matter as long as you're getting enough food, the good kind, and you can move your body.

That's another thing I'm trying to hold as a daily principle: Eat Food, Not Too Much, Mostly Plants. And not spaz too hard about the details.

drusplace September 16 2008, 21:53:08 UTC

I missed the Alton Brown comment somehow...but I think you are awesome for bringing this up on your lj. And you have made lots of great points. I *do* feel better with these few extra pounds on me, because I don't think I was eating healthy enough food when I was smaller. My metabolism works really fast and if all I'm giving it is junk, then that is all I'm going to get out of it. Now I eat more fresh fruits and vegetables and am lamenting the winter when it's no longer fresh.

And how can people think that telling you that they would hate you because you are FIT is a good comment to make?????? They should be PROUD of you for getting yourself FIT!

My son right now is slim, if he puts on weight when he's older (Hubby's family tends to be larger than mine) I REFUSE to make him feel BAD about it. I WILL make sure he gets lots of physical activity and healthy food but NO GUILT!

*hugs you back*

maybe1ce September 16 2008, 21:35:09 UTC

I am so rocking the wee thing with you. I am 5'7" and weigh 105 pounds. Believe it or not, I AM at a healthy weight for me. I have a very small frame. You know how people talk about how they are not overweight, but "big boned?" Well, I'm small boned. I eat like a pig. Drink like a fish. I don't "work out," although I am active and love to play. And, frankly, I'd like to add that I have also just about HAD IT with the social expectation that I apologize and/or self-insult whenever size comes up ( ... )

stoney321 September 16 2008, 21:41:06 UTC

I hate that there is such a pre-judgment towards heavier people, as if the size they are has any merit on WHO they are. And likewise, that skinnier people have assumptions made about them.

All I care about is you (both you you and general you) feeling good.

My BFF has to shop in the junior's section because she's both kinds of tiny. :) She gets shit about it, too, which is just so weird to me.

"It's really wasting a great deal of feminine energy." RIGHT ON. That, right there.

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