New and exciting policy updates!
As many of you know, if you talk to me about something, I usually have some sort of advice to give on the subject, ESPECIALLY if you are venting about something.
Well, I am done with that noise. I used to think that I was helping, but I really am not! See, people can be comforted by something I say, but not actually take it to heart. I can tell someone they are not a failure, that they are a fantastic, wonderful person capable of doing anything they want if they would just reach out and grab it, and it will make them feel good to hear that. But after all is said and done, they don't actually believe it, so the next thing I know I'm hearing about them admitting to being a failure in their minds.
I let shit like this bother me to the point of just.. PURE fury. Not anymore. If someone isn't asking for advice, it's becuase they don't really want it. And if they don't want it, I can give it all day long and they won't actually take anything away from it except MAYBE a warm fuzzy feeling. Fuck that.
So my new policy is this. I will listen to you vent, I am always available to vent to. You need a punching bag when you feel awful? I'm a pretty tough dude, I can take anything you can dish out.
BUT, I will not offer any advice. I will respond, maybe say a nice thing or two, but I will NOT give advice unless you ask for it. Oh, I'll HAVE advice, and plenty of opinions and things to say about the matter, but I'm gonna do my best to not share any of it. Becuase you asking for it is the ONLY commitment worth a damn that you will actually take said advice to heart. Otherwise I am just wasteing my breath. That's just how it is.
Well, I am done with that noise. I used to think that I was helping, but I really am not! See, people can be comforted by something I say, but not actually take it to heart. I can tell someone they are not a failure, that they are a fantastic, wonderful person capable of doing anything they want if they would just reach out and grab it, and it will make them feel good to hear that. But after all is said and done, they don't actually believe it, so the next thing I know I'm hearing about them admitting to being a failure in their minds.
I let shit like this bother me to the point of just.. PURE fury. Not anymore. If someone isn't asking for advice, it's becuase they don't really want it. And if they don't want it, I can give it all day long and they won't actually take anything away from it except MAYBE a warm fuzzy feeling. Fuck that.
So my new policy is this. I will listen to you vent, I am always available to vent to. You need a punching bag when you feel awful? I'm a pretty tough dude, I can take anything you can dish out.
BUT, I will not offer any advice. I will respond, maybe say a nice thing or two, but I will NOT give advice unless you ask for it. Oh, I'll HAVE advice, and plenty of opinions and things to say about the matter, but I'm gonna do my best to not share any of it. Becuase you asking for it is the ONLY commitment worth a damn that you will actually take said advice to heart. Otherwise I am just wasteing my breath. That's just how it is.