A social commentary....
I've been mulling this over for the better part of a week now. It is time for me to speak out. There is something wrong with American values today. Things are not focused on what they should be focused on, but even more importantly too many people feel free to to make judgements about decisions others make for their lives. Just because these decisions are not the same decisions others would make for their lives, the ones they see as "right," they feel the need to demean them and pass moral judgement on them.
I have made a decision about my future that seems unpopular among others my age. I'm not sure why. No one wants to stay home with their kids, but it is my right as a woman to want to do that. I'm sick and tired of having to defend this decision. Just because I choose to be a full time mom (for a time at least)doesn't mean that I'm stepping back to a world 50 years ago! It's true, I don't give a rat's ass about most of the feminist bull shit. I tend to have very traditional values, and I'm happy with that.
I want to be home to watch all of the little changes, hear all of the new words and just in general to be there for the experience. Why the fuck is there something wrong with that? I've known this for a LONG time. A really long time. I want the relationship I feel I can only get from being at home. When I have a job I tend to put that responsibility before everything else. I've in the past put it before school. I don't want to feel like I'm putting it before family. I therefore, intend to remove the temptation.
So think what you want of me. I don't care anymore. I don't what I think is right for me. I know it's not right for everyone, and just like so many people can't understand why I would want to stay home, I can't understand why they wouldn't. It seems to fundamental. I understnad that everyone isn't financially able to do that, but I plan to make some sacrifices if need be to be able to do it. Do I really need the cable? Probably not. If it has to go so it's one less bill to pay than it goes. It's not likely that my current job would even cover day care costs anyway. It just doesn't seem to be worth it to me.
So that's it. I want to stay home. I want to go to the park and have picnics and to not have to feel bad about calling out of work when one of my babies is sick. So when the time comes I plan to be at home. Wish me luck.
I have made a decision about my future that seems unpopular among others my age. I'm not sure why. No one wants to stay home with their kids, but it is my right as a woman to want to do that. I'm sick and tired of having to defend this decision. Just because I choose to be a full time mom (for a time at least)doesn't mean that I'm stepping back to a world 50 years ago! It's true, I don't give a rat's ass about most of the feminist bull shit. I tend to have very traditional values, and I'm happy with that.
I want to be home to watch all of the little changes, hear all of the new words and just in general to be there for the experience. Why the fuck is there something wrong with that? I've known this for a LONG time. A really long time. I want the relationship I feel I can only get from being at home. When I have a job I tend to put that responsibility before everything else. I've in the past put it before school. I don't want to feel like I'm putting it before family. I therefore, intend to remove the temptation.
So think what you want of me. I don't care anymore. I don't what I think is right for me. I know it's not right for everyone, and just like so many people can't understand why I would want to stay home, I can't understand why they wouldn't. It seems to fundamental. I understnad that everyone isn't financially able to do that, but I plan to make some sacrifices if need be to be able to do it. Do I really need the cable? Probably not. If it has to go so it's one less bill to pay than it goes. It's not likely that my current job would even cover day care costs anyway. It just doesn't seem to be worth it to me.
So that's it. I want to stay home. I want to go to the park and have picnics and to not have to feel bad about calling out of work when one of my babies is sick. So when the time comes I plan to be at home. Wish me luck.