Video 02

[stillneedsakiss]

[This message has deliberately been left unfiltered even from the one who has necessitated this question in the first place.]

This might be a strange question to pose, but I'd like to know...

How much of age gap would you find acceptable between two people who want to date?

General question.

Comments

[doctor_tatsu27]

I have known a couple who were happily married with a twelve year age gap.

[stillneedsakiss]

[Well, speak of the devil.]

Really?

[doctor_tatsu27]

Really. They were my cousins actually.

[He has a lot of those.]

[stillneedsakiss]

I see. So I suppose a difference of less than ten years wouldn't even be something to bat an eye over, would it?

[beyondweiss]

I suppose it depends on the couple.

[stillneedsakiss]

Like "one that doesn't include my sister"?

[beyondweiss]

Actually that meant "as long as they're happy". But since you're mentioning it, I assume this is about you?

[stillneedsakiss]

Mmh. I suppose that would be a safe assumption.

[Not like there's any fooling you anyway.]

[insorrow]

[Hi there, roomie. Guess who's leaning on the back of your couch? Where he came from, who knows. But he's here now and calling someone you live with would be dumb, so...]

There's some kind of math for this, right?

[stillneedsakiss]

[Oh hello there! Aya jumps just a little and looks up like a girl who's just been caught with her hand in the cookie jar. She sheepishly laughs.]

Do you think? Like what?

[insorrow]

Yeah... someone told me once. It's something like you divide the older one's age by two then add... some other number, I don't know what. And if the gap's less than something that means it's fine but I don't remember what that was either.

[Wow, that was a whole lot less helpful than he thought it'd be.]

I guess it's really more of a guideline, mostly.

[stillneedsakiss]

[She has to laugh a little. Ken, you're too adorable.]

In other words, the older the couple, the bigger the gap you can get away with. It makes sense-- even if you don't remember the actual numbers.

In all seriousness, then... What would your guideline be for a 22-year-old girl? Because, all humor aside, I do value your input on it. A lot.

[nie_unschuldig]

It all depends, does your brother know?

[stillneedsakiss]

Well, he does now...

[nie_unschuldig]

If he's all right with it, there shouldn't be a problem. Unless, the gentleman in question has an issue?

[stillneedsakiss]

...I don't know if he does. I sort of hung up before he had a chance to turn me down.

He doesn't mind age differences.

[prettyhazknight]

It's just a number though...

I mean, I've been a couple hundred years older than some people I've been with.

[stillneedsakiss]

[Aya laughs a little.]

This would be a silly question for you then, wouldn't it? But most people have certain expectations about partners staying reasonably close to their own ages-- for a number of reasons. Like maturity level.

[prettyhazknight]

Darling, people aren't wine. They mature when they're ready to. Age only helps a little teeny-tiny bit.

[stillneedsakiss]

Maybe after a certain point. And either way, there are still societal hang-ups about large age differences. I know I've never really tried too hard to stick to strict rules, but I don't want to rock the boat that way.