brokenhearted rant
Dear Fran,
Thankyou for your letters. I know you did not mean any harm with your question the other evening and I am not still upset about it. But I have used the time since to think about our relationship and now believe it would be best if we stopped seeing one another. I do not think we bring enough comfort and reassurance to one another and I see little prospect for improvement in this regard. I apologize.
Nathan
yeah. ouch.
let's not forget the non-refundable plane ticket to denver i bought for our ski trip march 19. he was going to pay for everything else - lift tickets, bed & breakfast, food, everything - but is HE out any money on MY behalf? ah, no.
comfort and reassurance? i was totally there for him. when he was worried about his sister, i was completely supportive. when he wanted to spend 2 weeks in brazil during the holidays instead of with me, i was patient and kind. when he didn't want to talk about his dad's death, i didn't push the issue and let him know i'd be there whe he wanted to open up. i thought i was being the perfect balance of the being-there-but-not-too-pushy-about-it-girlfriend.
could this be because i didn't sleep with him? our first date? i told him i wanted to wait 'till marriage so the past 25 years of abstinence wouldn't be to waste. his reaction? he took his hand off my knee. our seventh date? i jokingly told him he'd get frustrated with me and give up. his reaction? "i may get frustrated, but i won't give up on you."
and now this b.s. breakup-by-email that makes little to no sense. to me, at least.
thirty, no, twenty years ago, a good man who really loved a woman would forgive her if she'd "been around the block" a few times. my mom can't understand why i can't date many men at once: she doesn't realize that doing so would seem rather slutty, as it's common practice for some to sleep around on the first date, therefore they think everyone else does it too. and it plays with people's hearts. that's just not my style.
so now, within the span of one generation, it seems that the tides have turned. too many times this week i've been told "if he's not getting it from you, he has to be getting it somewhere else." has it come to the point where a man must forgive a woman for her virginity?
Thankyou for your letters. I know you did not mean any harm with your question the other evening and I am not still upset about it. But I have used the time since to think about our relationship and now believe it would be best if we stopped seeing one another. I do not think we bring enough comfort and reassurance to one another and I see little prospect for improvement in this regard. I apologize.
Nathan
yeah. ouch.
let's not forget the non-refundable plane ticket to denver i bought for our ski trip march 19. he was going to pay for everything else - lift tickets, bed & breakfast, food, everything - but is HE out any money on MY behalf? ah, no.
comfort and reassurance? i was totally there for him. when he was worried about his sister, i was completely supportive. when he wanted to spend 2 weeks in brazil during the holidays instead of with me, i was patient and kind. when he didn't want to talk about his dad's death, i didn't push the issue and let him know i'd be there whe he wanted to open up. i thought i was being the perfect balance of the being-there-but-not-too-pushy-about-it-girlfriend.
could this be because i didn't sleep with him? our first date? i told him i wanted to wait 'till marriage so the past 25 years of abstinence wouldn't be to waste. his reaction? he took his hand off my knee. our seventh date? i jokingly told him he'd get frustrated with me and give up. his reaction? "i may get frustrated, but i won't give up on you."
and now this b.s. breakup-by-email that makes little to no sense. to me, at least.
thirty, no, twenty years ago, a good man who really loved a woman would forgive her if she'd "been around the block" a few times. my mom can't understand why i can't date many men at once: she doesn't realize that doing so would seem rather slutty, as it's common practice for some to sleep around on the first date, therefore they think everyone else does it too. and it plays with people's hearts. that's just not my style.
so now, within the span of one generation, it seems that the tides have turned. too many times this week i've been told "if he's not getting it from you, he has to be getting it somewhere else." has it come to the point where a man must forgive a woman for her virginity?