Job dilemma
I've been working at my current workplace for almost two years. I really like the people and the mentality - except for my boss. I'm an assistant, so I'm constantly under his thumb. Unfortunately he's a micromanager who gets upset at the slightest mistake quite often. He doesn't yell but he'll pound the desk with his fist and say how disappointed he is. Most everyone at work has told me in private that they are glad they don't have my job since they wouldn't be able to put up with him.
I'd gotten to a place where I could handle this, but when Christmastime came, he suddenly became worse. At that time my co-worker, a fellow assistant for someone else, left and went to a much bigger bank. She told me they were hiring for someone with my exact skill set. At first I declined out of loyalty and a wish to not change everything again, but when my boss became worse I reconsidered and applied. I had two interviews, and they told me it was down to me and another woman. They wanted one more interview.
The whole time I had been (privately) freaking out because I hate interviewing more than anything and I didn't have peace about changing jobs. It's an extra 15-30 minutes of commute and possibly could have me facing some significant backups in the morning. It was also going to require me to get up at 5 instead of 6, and I already struggle mightily to wake up in the morning.
But the thing that made me call them and cancel the 3rd interview (and now I'm wondering if I should have) was a fear of making mistakes with new people, caused I think by my current boss's hyperactive reactions to any little mistake, and my feeling that I've mastered my current job description and a feeling of unwillingness to take on a new learning curve and possibly fail.
Did I make a big mistake? I'll never know. The two jobs offered the same pay but the new one offered medical benefits whereas the current one does not. But the stress of a new position would have been tough on me (I was feeling strong panicky feelings) and if I had failed there, I would have lost a sure thing.
I just hate not knowing whether I did the right thing. My husband is sure I made a mistake, but most of the time I feel peace about it. I'm 42 now and it's more important to me to have a work environment/commute that is less stressful, though I would have liked to have had a less micromanaging boss. Although I sensed the new one might be too.
I'd gotten to a place where I could handle this, but when Christmastime came, he suddenly became worse. At that time my co-worker, a fellow assistant for someone else, left and went to a much bigger bank. She told me they were hiring for someone with my exact skill set. At first I declined out of loyalty and a wish to not change everything again, but when my boss became worse I reconsidered and applied. I had two interviews, and they told me it was down to me and another woman. They wanted one more interview.
The whole time I had been (privately) freaking out because I hate interviewing more than anything and I didn't have peace about changing jobs. It's an extra 15-30 minutes of commute and possibly could have me facing some significant backups in the morning. It was also going to require me to get up at 5 instead of 6, and I already struggle mightily to wake up in the morning.
But the thing that made me call them and cancel the 3rd interview (and now I'm wondering if I should have) was a fear of making mistakes with new people, caused I think by my current boss's hyperactive reactions to any little mistake, and my feeling that I've mastered my current job description and a feeling of unwillingness to take on a new learning curve and possibly fail.
Did I make a big mistake? I'll never know. The two jobs offered the same pay but the new one offered medical benefits whereas the current one does not. But the stress of a new position would have been tough on me (I was feeling strong panicky feelings) and if I had failed there, I would have lost a sure thing.
I just hate not knowing whether I did the right thing. My husband is sure I made a mistake, but most of the time I feel peace about it. I'm 42 now and it's more important to me to have a work environment/commute that is less stressful, though I would have liked to have had a less micromanaging boss. Although I sensed the new one might be too.