Studying L-O-V-E!!!

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I read this on a book, and it really caught my interest! Maybe, some already know about this, but for those who aren't, I just want to share!!! And ooohh....tagged people are required to share their thoughts!!! :P



Some say, love is not just a plain, strong feeling...actually, it is a judgment, a promise, to whomever you give it to...If it were a feeling, then there's no sense of promising to love each other forever, because a feeling is something that may come and go, without a specific time and setting.



Robert J. Sternberg believes that love consists of three components, according to his Triangular Theory of Love, namely:

• Intimacy. It is the feeling of closeness that exists between two people, it includes disclosing of personal feelings and thoughts;


• Passion.This is the drive that produces romance, physical attraction, and intercourse, and;


• Commitment..It is characterized by a decision to maintain love relationship with the partner both now and in the future.


From his three elements of love, he identified eight types of love: <3
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  • Non-love. Absence of all three elements.
  
  
  • Liking. Intimacy without passion and commitment.
  
  
  • Infatuation. Passion without intimacy and commitment.
  
  
  • Romantic Love. Intimacy and passion without commitment.
  
  
  • Companionate Love. Intimacy and commitment without passion.
  
  
  • Fatuous Love. Passion and commitment without intimacy.
  
  
  • Empty Love. Commitment without passion and intimacy.
  
  
  • Consummate Love. Combination of the three elements.
  
  


So....which kind of love do you have right now...? :) come on...share! share! share! ^^,

Whereas, John Lee compared styles of love to the color wheel. Just as there are three primary colors, Lee suggested that there are three primary styles of love. These three styles of love are:
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  • Eros. An erotic lover is consumed by intense passion and romance. This is a romantic love that has tremendous passion, physical longing, deep intensity, and intimacy.
  
  
  • Ludus. Ludus is called game-playing love. A ludic lover sees love as a game, and refuses to become dependent on any person and does not encourage another's intimacy.
  
  
  • Storge. Storge exemplifies friendship-based love. There is strong companionship and shared values here but little physical intimacy. It is calm, soothing, nonsexual love. The partners care deeply about each other but not in a romantic or lustful sense, this love is more likely to endure than fleeting romance.


Combinations of these styles of love result in another three styles:
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  • Mania. Mania is a combination of eros and ludus love. It is also known as the troubled love. A manic lover feels intense emotional and sexual passion but is out of control. They are extremely jealous and controlling.
  
  
  • Pragma. Pragma, a combination of storge and ludus love, refers to practical or logical love in which someone actively searches for a partner with certain characteristics. It is logical and rational. A pragma lover assesses his or her partner on the basis of assets and liabilities.
  
  
  • Agape. Agape is the blend of eros and storge. This is the love of altruism, of giving without asking anything in return, and of sacrificing oneself for one's partner. An agapic lover is selfless and giving. Many would consider it to be the purest form of love.


All couples share some of each of these forms of love. However, some individuals and thus, couples, focus more on certain types of love styles.

So how about you? What kind of a lover are you...? :D

It's really interesting to study about love as this word cannot be described completely even in a set of paragraphs...I couldn't give you an exact meaning too, and if I were to ask all of you, you would surely give a myriad of different ideas, which still, if we will sum up, would not satisfy the real complete meaning of LOVE...

It's just amazing how love is...For those who have never find it yet, don't worry, just keep on searching, he or she is also looking for you, just open your eyes and hearts. :D

- March 10, 2010