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Oh and more about Maya.
She is black. Indian-black. But HOT indian-black (i.e. lacking a moustache). In fact, I'd hazzard a guess that she's quite possibly the hottest indian that has ever existed.
Our history/how we met:
I met her on LJ whilst I was in year 12. She offered to help me with a module I was switching to for English. I offered her help with another module that I was quite l33t with. We met at the State Library and then hung around a bit afterwards with one of her friends whilst filming random stuff in the city (i.e. me being a dick to randoms - "ronald mcdonald is a communist!").
We weren't really 'friends' that much after this, but through time we hung more and more around each other and got pretty close. She eventually became my best female friend - and myself, vice versa.
How our relationship developed:
We thought of ourselves as 'just friends' for the longest of times but then through drunken/drug-fuled nights we ended up getting closer and closer. One of my best mates who has always shared my single-ness got a girlfriend, so Maya and myself became 'pseudo-bfs/gfs' for fun. Thinking about each other in that way sparked off potential interest. However, I would never ever make a move on her as I didn't want to potentially ruin our friendship.
One night on MSN, recently, we were talking about having sex after we get married at the trivial age of 69 (being the pseudobf/gf that we are). Another night, I don't remember what sparked it, but she said that sex between us will have to happen eventually and then signed off. Later, she tried to claim that she meant that was at 69 after we get married, but I think we both knew the reality of it: it would eventually happen some time in the not-to-distant future.
However, still, I don't think I'd really have the guts (at least sober) to make a move: not wanting to risk the friendship. And I did recall her saying once that she'd never hook up with me, even if we were the only two survivors on an island. We also had a friendship that involved us paying each other out A LOT. Calling each other ugly, black (subhuman)/albino, etc. So it was hard to guage when either party was serious.
What sparked it:
We went to a super-mega-cool-intarnet meatup from the boredofstudies forum coz being g33ks is teh uber cool. She was on E, whilst I was super-mega drunk. We were at the Clare and we somehow ended up hugging, then she pecked me on the cheek. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, but I think I went to kiss her on the lips and she kissed back. It was awkward, with us being super-best-friends for the whole night, but at the same time beautiful. I asked her out the following day and she accepted. After her acception I said, "ya know, maya, you're probably the only subhuman I'd consider dating".
She was a bit nervous dating me, especially with my manwhore reputation, and kissing lots of random girls drunk (thus an understandable questioning of my faithfulness). Also, my relationships seem to last for a few weeks, maximum and a few days minimum (the mean being aroun a week).
I also had many insecurities: does she really like me, maybe I'm just an extended rebound guy, what if I suck in bed (more on that later -i've only slept with girls drunk and in one-night stands), will our friendship survive this, do my friends find her attractive (I have a big issue with approval from friends - which is stupid of me [note: yes, they think she's very hawt])?
Then there was the whole denial thing happening - maybe she was just on E and doesn't really like me, argghhh this, arghh that. It was a quite horrible interim period before I saw her for our first date.
The first date:
Although very awkward at first, it eventually got to be 'ok' - still not 'good' but just 'ok' in terms of awkwardness. I mean, normally, you have a plethora of topics available for your disposal 'what styles of music do you like, what is your favourite movie'. We knew everything about each other.
The hardest thing is also trying to stop thinking about someone as a friend, and as a gf.
We had a very passionate night laying on the park's ground, where she got bitten (serves her right for being black), after a brief stilt at the uni library.
A great call by me:
*stops making out* "...if only you were white".
The Second date:
Some highlights
-Watching Final Destination 3 and laughing at the 'awesome' acting.
-Seeing an old guy urinate behind us whilst we were eating, then wipe himself off with tissues, then fold those tissues up and put them in his bag.
-The constant barrage of black jokes I launched at her.
-My Maya-control method that worked (learned it from South Park, where you use this thing they use on dogs) - it made her be quiet. success.
-Me talking through the entire trailers that she really wanted to hear
(Xmen trailer: "ohhh I guess she was feeling a little blue today. Is she an emo? Why is she soo blue? Did she have a really bad day?")
-Maya doing anything and everything <3 maya!
Some 1-week-into-relationship-thoughts:
I really really really really really like her. I won't say it's love, as it's not, but I really do like her. She's amazing, for all the reasons I was such great friends with her. She knows nearly everything about me and I know most things about her. It has gotten to be very comfortable. She is an excellent kisser and an even better person. She lets me pay her out, and she is quite witty when she pays me out as well. I feel so great when I'm with her (and always think about her when I'm not) - as gh3y as that sounds.
Sex:
I will write more about sex later. I am rather afraid about having sex with her for mostly the reason that I wrote about above, plus some more.
She is black. Indian-black. But HOT indian-black (i.e. lacking a moustache). In fact, I'd hazzard a guess that she's quite possibly the hottest indian that has ever existed.
Our history/how we met:
I met her on LJ whilst I was in year 12. She offered to help me with a module I was switching to for English. I offered her help with another module that I was quite l33t with. We met at the State Library and then hung around a bit afterwards with one of her friends whilst filming random stuff in the city (i.e. me being a dick to randoms - "ronald mcdonald is a communist!").
We weren't really 'friends' that much after this, but through time we hung more and more around each other and got pretty close. She eventually became my best female friend - and myself, vice versa.
How our relationship developed:
We thought of ourselves as 'just friends' for the longest of times but then through drunken/drug-fuled nights we ended up getting closer and closer. One of my best mates who has always shared my single-ness got a girlfriend, so Maya and myself became 'pseudo-bfs/gfs' for fun. Thinking about each other in that way sparked off potential interest. However, I would never ever make a move on her as I didn't want to potentially ruin our friendship.
One night on MSN, recently, we were talking about having sex after we get married at the trivial age of 69 (being the pseudobf/gf that we are). Another night, I don't remember what sparked it, but she said that sex between us will have to happen eventually and then signed off. Later, she tried to claim that she meant that was at 69 after we get married, but I think we both knew the reality of it: it would eventually happen some time in the not-to-distant future.
However, still, I don't think I'd really have the guts (at least sober) to make a move: not wanting to risk the friendship. And I did recall her saying once that she'd never hook up with me, even if we were the only two survivors on an island. We also had a friendship that involved us paying each other out A LOT. Calling each other ugly, black (subhuman)/albino, etc. So it was hard to guage when either party was serious.
What sparked it:
We went to a super-mega-cool-intarnet meatup from the boredofstudies forum coz being g33ks is teh uber cool. She was on E, whilst I was super-mega drunk. We were at the Clare and we somehow ended up hugging, then she pecked me on the cheek. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, but I think I went to kiss her on the lips and she kissed back. It was awkward, with us being super-best-friends for the whole night, but at the same time beautiful. I asked her out the following day and she accepted. After her acception I said, "ya know, maya, you're probably the only subhuman I'd consider dating".
She was a bit nervous dating me, especially with my manwhore reputation, and kissing lots of random girls drunk (thus an understandable questioning of my faithfulness). Also, my relationships seem to last for a few weeks, maximum and a few days minimum (the mean being aroun a week).
I also had many insecurities: does she really like me, maybe I'm just an extended rebound guy, what if I suck in bed (more on that later -i've only slept with girls drunk and in one-night stands), will our friendship survive this, do my friends find her attractive (I have a big issue with approval from friends - which is stupid of me [note: yes, they think she's very hawt])?
Then there was the whole denial thing happening - maybe she was just on E and doesn't really like me, argghhh this, arghh that. It was a quite horrible interim period before I saw her for our first date.
The first date:
Although very awkward at first, it eventually got to be 'ok' - still not 'good' but just 'ok' in terms of awkwardness. I mean, normally, you have a plethora of topics available for your disposal 'what styles of music do you like, what is your favourite movie'. We knew everything about each other.
The hardest thing is also trying to stop thinking about someone as a friend, and as a gf.
We had a very passionate night laying on the park's ground, where she got bitten (serves her right for being black), after a brief stilt at the uni library.
A great call by me:
*stops making out* "...if only you were white".
The Second date:
Some highlights
-Watching Final Destination 3 and laughing at the 'awesome' acting.
-Seeing an old guy urinate behind us whilst we were eating, then wipe himself off with tissues, then fold those tissues up and put them in his bag.
-The constant barrage of black jokes I launched at her.
-My Maya-control method that worked (learned it from South Park, where you use this thing they use on dogs) - it made her be quiet. success.
-Me talking through the entire trailers that she really wanted to hear
(Xmen trailer: "ohhh I guess she was feeling a little blue today. Is she an emo? Why is she soo blue? Did she have a really bad day?")
-Maya doing anything and everything <3 maya!
Some 1-week-into-relationship-thoughts:
I really really really really really like her. I won't say it's love, as it's not, but I really do like her. She's amazing, for all the reasons I was such great friends with her. She knows nearly everything about me and I know most things about her. It has gotten to be very comfortable. She is an excellent kisser and an even better person. She lets me pay her out, and she is quite witty when she pays me out as well. I feel so great when I'm with her (and always think about her when I'm not) - as gh3y as that sounds.
Sex:
I will write more about sex later. I am rather afraid about having sex with her for mostly the reason that I wrote about above, plus some more.