Dang. I feel for you. It's disconcerting to have that sort of thing happen, and I'd know. The closest term I can find for what I am is demi-sexual (basically, it happens once in a while but no man knoweth where or when), but I really prefer the term "sexual cactus".
Out of curiosity, did you speak to your beau about this at all? And, forgive me for asking, but is there any possibility in your mind (and body) of maybe someday being physically attracted to someone?
He's a nice guy. We hadn't really talked about sex except at the beginning, so I spent a lot of time wondering if I was going to start feeling physically attracted...but when I hadn't after eight months, it was pretty obvious that it wasn't going to start. So we talked. I knew it was important to him, so we just decided that it would be best not to date any more.
As for ever being physically attracted to anybody? Well, it's a big world, so if it's going to happen, I guess I'll find out when it does.
Ooh, awkward. I had to turn a guy down one time but couldn't bring myself to explain why. I managed to explain to him later when he found another girlfriend (nice girl too), and we're still friends. Explaining to my mother was the awkward bit, and I still haven't managed to bring myself to tell my dad. So yeah, you're not the only one, and there are people out there who'd "marry for cuddles", though they're hard to find. The Asexual Visibility Network might help.
Yeah, awkward is one way of putting it. But he's a nice guy, and we manaaged to share a laugh in between the breaking-up and me coming home, so I have hopes we can remain friends. And holy moly -my mother phoned not two hours later, and that conversation was as clumsy as it gets. I think talking to parents about anything sexual is designed to be an exercise in embarrassment, though, so that's just continuing tradition.
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Out of curiosity, did you speak to your beau about this at all? And, forgive me for asking, but is there any possibility in your mind (and body) of maybe someday being physically attracted to someone?
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As for ever being physically attracted to anybody? Well, it's a big world, so if it's going to happen, I guess I'll find out when it does.
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