i have a hard time expressing my opinions.
Good morning. I just took my regimen of vitamins and supplements- 1 packet of Oil of Olay beautiful skin and wellness vitamins (multivitamin, CoQ10, vitamin E and alpha lipoic with green tea), 2 fish oil supplements, 3 Benefiber caplets (although my lone star beer supplements often help me be regular, it never hurts) and 2 milk chocolate calcium chewables (for dessert).
I expect to burst into a glowing flame of beauty any minute now.
Still waiting.
The other day, a boy from okcupid messaged me. He looked almost cute, but very young. But his profile said he was 26, which is my lower limit these days, so I was open.
And his profile also said he was seeing someone, so I was curious as to what that was all about.
Turns out he's in an 'open marriage'. Ha! I started to talk with him on AIM just to see what that was all about. I'm not sure if I've ever really talked to someone about what that means to them and how that works.... but I like to consider myself openminded.
But right off the bat, I knew I wasn't into it and told him so.
First, let's be honest. He didn't seem cute or interesting enough for that kind of drama.
And I've had enough experience in relationships to know I really couldn't handle that at all. I'm a jealous bitch, what can I say?
Anyway, I started to quiz him a bit just to see what he was all about. He still tried to talk me into it a bit, but I just ignored that.
He said that he and his wife had been married for something like 2 years, but together for 6. They had each been involved with one other person during their marriage. And he said that they both found it to be a bit of a turn-on, the whole 'open marriage' thing.
I asked him what he had to offer another woman, since he was married and all. He seemed to think that friendship and sex was enough. 'It's not even about sex,' he said- which is the biggest load of bullshit I've heard in a long time.
If it's not about sex, then why not have close platonic female friends? 'Cause you're a dirty whore who can't commit, that's why.
You know, I can understand the whole polyamoric view that people are going to cheat at some point anyway. If your partner knows about it, it's not cheating. I guess. There is that little thing about those vows that you took when you got married though- do they have open marriage clauses?
And just because there's a likelihood of someone cheating at some point in a marriage, doesn't mean you advocate it. It all seems like a Jerry Springer episode anyway...what if she gets pregnant? ick.
See, I've never cheated on anyone, and I'm pretty sure I've never been cheated on. I've been the other girl once or twice, but either it was harmless kissing or they were 'on a break'. On those few occasions, I don't think I was much interested in being with that guy anyway. He's a cheater, after all. Fun to mess around with but no one special.
I just don't quite understand what would be positive about being the 'other woman' in an open marriage. The wife gets the wedding, the commitment, sex, intimacy, a future with her best friend. The 'other woman' gets sex and 'friendship'. I can get that anywhere. It just seems like an incredibly selfish situation for the ones who are actually married.
I expect to burst into a glowing flame of beauty any minute now.
Still waiting.
The other day, a boy from okcupid messaged me. He looked almost cute, but very young. But his profile said he was 26, which is my lower limit these days, so I was open.
And his profile also said he was seeing someone, so I was curious as to what that was all about.
Turns out he's in an 'open marriage'. Ha! I started to talk with him on AIM just to see what that was all about. I'm not sure if I've ever really talked to someone about what that means to them and how that works.... but I like to consider myself openminded.
But right off the bat, I knew I wasn't into it and told him so.
First, let's be honest. He didn't seem cute or interesting enough for that kind of drama.
And I've had enough experience in relationships to know I really couldn't handle that at all. I'm a jealous bitch, what can I say?
Anyway, I started to quiz him a bit just to see what he was all about. He still tried to talk me into it a bit, but I just ignored that.
He said that he and his wife had been married for something like 2 years, but together for 6. They had each been involved with one other person during their marriage. And he said that they both found it to be a bit of a turn-on, the whole 'open marriage' thing.
I asked him what he had to offer another woman, since he was married and all. He seemed to think that friendship and sex was enough. 'It's not even about sex,' he said- which is the biggest load of bullshit I've heard in a long time.
If it's not about sex, then why not have close platonic female friends? 'Cause you're a dirty whore who can't commit, that's why.
You know, I can understand the whole polyamoric view that people are going to cheat at some point anyway. If your partner knows about it, it's not cheating. I guess. There is that little thing about those vows that you took when you got married though- do they have open marriage clauses?
And just because there's a likelihood of someone cheating at some point in a marriage, doesn't mean you advocate it. It all seems like a Jerry Springer episode anyway...what if she gets pregnant? ick.
See, I've never cheated on anyone, and I'm pretty sure I've never been cheated on. I've been the other girl once or twice, but either it was harmless kissing or they were 'on a break'. On those few occasions, I don't think I was much interested in being with that guy anyway. He's a cheater, after all. Fun to mess around with but no one special.
I just don't quite understand what would be positive about being the 'other woman' in an open marriage. The wife gets the wedding, the commitment, sex, intimacy, a future with her best friend. The 'other woman' gets sex and 'friendship'. I can get that anywhere. It just seems like an incredibly selfish situation for the ones who are actually married.