sigh...
I'm going to stage a coup on American society. I can't stand it! Everyone is always rushing, rushing, rushing. What are we rushing towards??? We are a society in serious need of a long vacation. People are being pushed too hard and are suffering because of it. Everyone I know is stressed out and has way too much to do. We have such an
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I agree with you whole-heartedly...how ARE we suppose to
enjoy life when all we do is stress and run ourselves into
the ground?
And really, what is accomplished by running ourselves down
in such manner? Whatever we get in the end as our prize
for neglacting our health in such a way is only satisying
for a short amount of time.
I guess its the whole 'sheep' principle. We see one person's
view of the world and automatically follow with others, trying to fit in,
keep up, live to what soceity has ruled as a 'life'.
Personally I believe we should just live life how we see fit.
Not how one person sees it or thinks we should.
(i.e. one person thinks we should just have to rush around like chickens
without their heads and work ourselves to death...and another thinks
we ought to be adreniline-junkies and jump out of planes on a daily basis in order to live.) I think both are wrong. I think whatever fulfils YOU the most should be done. Do whatever relaxes YOU and makes YOU enjoy the one life we are given.
Ahh, sorry, I keep ranting to you. I just saw this post and its been one of those days where soceity has me rushing about so your post spoke to me, hence me thinking I should rant like a crazy person XD Sorry about that but very true words ^_^
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I wrote this post on Halloween because I had a terrible Halloween that year. I had a night class that I couldn't get out of. The class had about 15 people in it so if you weren't there, it'd be noticable, plus the teacher was one of those really intimidating types that you didn't want to make upset with you. She told us all we HAD to be there and we were. It just made me so upset. I LOVE holidays. I think they are a wonderful excuse to have fun and spend time with loved ones. I was so depressed that I couldn't have fun doing my usual Halloween stuff, and to make things worse, it was a pointless class that night and we had so much work to do. It was a really hectic and crazy time and I was just crushed that all that pointless work made me miss a really fun holiday. Life really is too short to spend your time being miserable and missing out on what makes you happy. I just wish our society was more lenient that way so that people could feel more free to spend at least some time doing things that make them happy instead of sacrificing too much to get things done.
I really like a quote by John Lennon: "Time you enjoy wasting, was not wasted." I probably live by those words a little too much because I procrastinate very badly. :D But sometimes we need to just have fun and relax. So I hope you don't have to rush about too badly and get some time to have some fun! :)
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Same here :)
Oh wow, that sucks. I am so sorry to hear you had such a horrible Halloween, and especially knowing that in the end it wasn't worth not getting to enjoy the holiday! Ugh, I hate when people do that...I mean, they make you feel guilty and horrible if you don't do what they wish and then you give up something you know you'd be feeling better doing and then you don't even get the satisfaction of saying 'well I went and actually DID something'...I hate when you do something you dislike and then its not even worth the misery it puts you through...I mean, all of that just to make it a pointless class? They knew it was Halloween right???
I personally enjoy holidays too and I used to enjoy Halloween but after many years of bitter disappointment, I just can't find the fun to try anymore :( If I try it for friends, they ruin it or ditch me, and I can't do it solo, something always comes up more important for someone else when I try -sigh- but enough of my cynics, I just hate to hear that someone who enjoys the holiday so much didn't get to enjoy it. That just sucks.
And I agree, I wish society would realize that the majority of this misery and stress isn't needed, I mean, the majority of what we stress over, in an example, at work, its not like you can take this topic with you when you leave...because, what's better to have as a memory, the fact that you got that paper in on time or that you got to be happy with family/friends or just yourself...which sounds better?
I guess the answers obvious, yet our soceity thinks its the paper for work and if we don't follow, then it just becomes nine types of hell.
Ok I am beginning to think I am no longer making sense so I am going to stop lol XD basically what I am saying is....you're right :)
Yess I enjoy that quote from Lennon as well and haha, its so nice to meet another procrastinator...I am sooo bad at that XD
I wish I didn't have to rush around as badly as I do and I wish I could get some fun in my life, maybe I wouldn't be so depressed *lol* but...well, I could rant why I am but no need to bore you, basically I am caged and who knows when I'll get out of the stress thats crushing on me.
I hope I get to in time before I lose the chance to enjoy life.
We all need to and Lord knows I try... but yeah, enough of me yammering...or at least in this comment lol :D
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I'm sorry that Halloween has lost it's fun for you. :( I've been pretty lucky. My little sister is 10 years younger than me so whenever I should have been starting to outgrow stuff like trick-or-treating, I kept doing it anyway cause I went around with my sister. Plus, my best friend in high school was a basically a big kid herself and she loved coming out with us, too. Also, my mom is really big on Halloween and we've always gone to my grandma's house and brought decorations and gave out candy and went trick-or-treating there. That's why it killed me to miss all of it, I've always had a really great time on Halloween. Last Halloween, I even dressed up as a hippie just to give out the candy... I guess I was kinda making up for the one I missed before that. :)
It sucks that your Halloweens don't work out, but maybe someday you'll be able to enjoy the holiday again. Life is unpredictable so you never know. Besides, I think the older people get, the more they don't really want to grow up. You go through a time of just wanting to be an adult and try to distance yourself from childish things, but then you realize that being an adult sucks so you try to do what you can to have fun again. :D (Well, not everyone feels that way, but I think a lot of people do even if they don't want to admit it.) So maybe eventually you'll have people to have fun on Halloween with again even if you just go to a costume party or give out candy to little kids.
I totally agree with you about what's better to have a memory of. I'm always thinking about what I'd rather remember... doing something that makes me miserable, or having a really good time doing something else. That means I put things off a lot lol, but I try to have as much fun as I can. We only have this one life and I try to live based on what's truly important to me.
I'm sorry to hear how much stress is crushing you! :( It's awful to feel caged cause it makes you want to get out so badly but you feel like you just can't. And a lot of times, you truly can't get out of things. But I believe you have too keep hoping for the best. I don't know what your situation is right now so I don't know what kind of advice I can offer, but I hope you can get through this tough time in your life and come out a better, stronger person. You never know when an opportunity will come along that will change everything. You can only do your best with what you have to work with, and just keep hoping and working towards making things better.
Anyway, I think I've said plenty for now. :D If you feel like ranting to me about why you're depressed, I'd be happy to listen even if I can't help, and it wouldn't bore me. :)
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getting to enjoy the holiday, then I would understand it but
the fact was, it sounds like she just wanted people to stay
in for the holiday which sucks.
I mean, when I saw if a class was worth it or not I don't mean
by fun, I simply mean that you think 'well it sucked that we had
to miss Halloween but at least that part of the course is done
and over with' but it doesn't sound like that at all which is just wrong.
Oh don't apologize, you didn't ruin it for me! :)
Funny thing is, I just dunno how to stop hoping for a better All Hallow's Eve
it seems. Even though I have been burned multiple times, I still find
myself getting a little excited by the upcoming Halloween.
I was for this one but once again, it was pretty predictible.
Usually my friends here locally just ditch me for their then-beau or they
treat me so crappy that I wish I just would've stayed home and its kind of like
this time around as well.
I actually was expressing getting dressed up for Halloween [I'm pretty poor so
the fact that it was being considered to buy a costume for the one-time-only thing
was pretty surprising] and I saw the movie The Dark Knight this summer
[wasn't a Batman person till it came out and now I am hooked lol] and I have always
loved the colour green so I thought of spraying my hair green and being the Joker just for kicks.
Well, my friend here has kind of thrown a fit because her favorite colour is purple and she had bought the pants first so she wanted to be him and she's wanted to do stuff with her bf and be the Joker and I'm not in the mood to really fight for it. I still might spray my hair though :P
Who knows...if I find a reason, I know the Joker-costume isn't just for one person. A ton of people can be him if they wish, including me, I know that but I don't see a point in doing it alone.
It doesn't seem fun to go to a haunted house or dress up if you are just solo the whole night so I'm back to my usual bah'humbug mood for the season, haha, but since you love the holiday so much, I don't want to damper your spirits on my cynicism, I am curious though, have you any plans for Halloween this year? Or if I can ask? I don't want to be nosy. ^^
"Besides, I think the older people get, the more they don't really want to grow up.
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You took the words right out of my mouth, I couldn't agree more and I realize I am exactly like that lol.
And see, I agree with you there. And one thing I have tried to argue with people for a while now is you can enjoy life, live it to the fullest without having to jump out airplanes. Sure, that sounds a 'live life to the max' but you can't do that on a daily basis so we just need to find stuff that makes we, ourselves, content. I mean, we're all different so sky-diving won't make us all feel like we're living life.
For some, its extreme, for others its mellow, and some its in between.
I just think that we only have one life and no one is gonna live it for us and I think we should do stuff that we can actually smile about one day.
I am a big person on responsibility and stuff but I mean, c'mon, I have the choice of making a six figure salary but being the most miserable human being on the planet or making by with a simple job and being able to express actual joy.
Money's great, and I would love to have it, but the Beatles once told us Money Can't Buy You Love and its true. It buys us things certainly and we can be temporarily happy with the possessions but if we are waking up feeling dead inside, is it really worth it?
Ok I know I am popular for ranting about these things but people should do what makes them happy in life, what makes them feel alive and people are terrified of risks, and living the life you want is risky but if you don't take it, who's to say it can't work out?
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Hmm, that is a difficult situation for your Halloween. I guess you'll just have to see what you feel like doing when the time comes and see what your options are. You may just be like "screw it, I'm being the Joker." And there's nothing wrong with that, no matter who else wants to be him too. :) I hope something fun comes up but if not, go buy yourself a good bag of Halloween candy and pig out. That may not be too healthy but it could be at least a little fun. :D And you can watch a good Halloween movie while you're doing it because that is something that is not always so bad to do alone... unless it's really scary and being alone just makes it worse. :P
I don't mind you asking about my Halloween at all. Sometimes I can be really bad at asking people questions about their lives because I'm so used to being a listener and having people just tell me things, so I just don't think to ask about stuff. But I don't mind people asking me things at all. This Halloween will probably the last Halloween of my family's traditional routine. My Grandma is moving in with my Aunt and Uncle by the end of this year so it will be the last time we get to spend Halloween in her neighborhood. It's impossible to give out candy at our house because we're not in a place where kids can easily walk up to. So we've always spent Halloween at my Grandma's where there a bunch of houses really close together - perfect for trick-or-treating. So we're planning on going there to give out candy and my sister will probably go trick-or-treating, too. My mom's got a bunch of fun Halloween decorations that she takes there and I'll probably sit on the steps and give out the candy. I think I'll try to dress up as something but I'm not sure what yet. Last year I was a Hippie, which was fun because I had a long blonde wig and it was fun to be blonde for a change. :D Also, the little boy I babysit is turning six on Halloween so they'll probably have a birthday party for him the next day which will also be fun. :)
I don't think I can add anything to what you said about doing what makes you happy in life because I totally agree with you. :) Life definitely feels better when you do what you think is right for you, no matter what anyone else says or thinks.
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