The homophobic bisexual
So I've friended this new couple and I'm trying to help them out but I need some help too. They are a couple years younger than me both around 19. For one, L, it is her very first relationship, first of everything. For the other, M, I guess she was engaged to a guy before she started dating L, they have been together over a year. L is pretty sure she is a lesbian but just not ready to full on come out with it. M says she bisexual but believes her situation, she refuses to see it as a relationship, with L is a sin. M is incredibly religious, comes from 2 lesbian moms, tells people she is single, dates guys, tells people that L is her cousin. L and M live together, share rent/utilities, own a pet together, have sex with one another, basically have all the things of a relationship, as long as it stays in the confines of their place. They say they are in love with one another and that they are happy but its pretty clear that they just want people to think that and are very desperate to have someone approve of what they are doing.
I want to show M that she can have both her religion and L and not offend anyone but she doesn't believe that will ever be possible. I don't know what to say to her. L and I get along great and she is opening up a bit more to accepting her sexuality but no matter what she will do anything for M, even though that is sacrificing her happiness. I got M a book on Homosexuality and Faith and a few other books and L is watching all my movies and tv show dvds pertaining to homosexuality. So they are open to learning and figuring out their feelings on this but M is pretty adament that God does not approve of what she is doing and that if she admits the relationship to anyone than she will be damned to hell.
I've never met anyone like M before, I don't really know what to say to her or how to help her see that she can be with L and have God and be happy. I'm closer to L and feel bad for her in this situation and I want to help her through this but I don't know what to do.
I want to show M that she can have both her religion and L and not offend anyone but she doesn't believe that will ever be possible. I don't know what to say to her. L and I get along great and she is opening up a bit more to accepting her sexuality but no matter what she will do anything for M, even though that is sacrificing her happiness. I got M a book on Homosexuality and Faith and a few other books and L is watching all my movies and tv show dvds pertaining to homosexuality. So they are open to learning and figuring out their feelings on this but M is pretty adament that God does not approve of what she is doing and that if she admits the relationship to anyone than she will be damned to hell.
I've never met anyone like M before, I don't really know what to say to her or how to help her see that she can be with L and have God and be happy. I'm closer to L and feel bad for her in this situation and I want to help her through this but I don't know what to do.