Fuck everything. Fuck everyone. I just wander off and do my thing. A shit, I do not give. There are in fact, no shits in my bag to hand out. I don't care if you cat caught fire, or if you wish to romance me with pineapples. This is my day and you can fuck the hell off.
How does one romance someone with pineapples? I've never heard of this method before.
But yeah, I have those days too. I generally go spend them in large bookstores where nobody will notice the quiet nerd sitting in the corner, working their way through a stack of graphic novels.
Buy things, lol. Retail therapy is always on my list, especially if it's something I've been wanting for awhile--no better reason to treat myself.
Also, making a small, positive change that's fairly easily accomplished. i.e. Cleaning up, taking a long walk/exercising a bit, cooking something a little ambitious instead of doing take out, finally organizing that pile of books on the floor. Little successes feel just as good as big ones, really, and it has the added benefit of making a part of your life better, as well as making you feel better.
Indulge in guilty pleasures. That horrendous romcom that you can't help but adore, a pint of ice cream, wandering around in your underwear, eating the whole box of cookies. :)))
Horrendous romcom? You know, it's been a while since I watched Love Actually. (Which is not horrendous, but is the only romcom I've ever been able to enjoy. And it does go down good with a box of cheap grocery store cookies. YES.)
So this first paragraph, I don't know if it'll be helpful (if it's something you already know) and I hate to play armchair psychologist over the internet, but just in case: I had a friend who had pretty similar symptoms to yours and was diagnosed with Seasonal Affective Disorder (in time to save her from some rash decisions, one of which was to break up with her then-fiance). She started seeing a therapist and got on some meds and seems a lot better. Just a fyi
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I'm pretty sure that if I pursued it, I'd probably be diagnosed with SAD, as this has been happening for years. I have this prejudice against actually going to therapy, and a huge one against mood-altering medication. Part of it is because I'm broke and uninsured, but most of it is just weird personal things and biases.
Also, oh my god, retail therapy is a thin line for me. I went to Target a little while ago with my platonic wife, and we both spent about $70-80. We both felt absolutely horrified on the drive home. I think we ended up in a bar that night. :D
I try to tell myself that it's okay to spend some time doing nothing. It doesn't usually work, because there's always something to feel guilty about failing at.
Picking small tasks with clear results (make something easy, clean the bathroom) sometimes helps. So does going outside.
I think that cleaning the bathroom might be the best of all possible chore-therapy. That and splitting wood, which, unfortunately, I really don't need to do while living in Chicago.
Speaking of, are you still coming out here for a visit?
Yes, definitely still visiting! I have pretty much failed to make firm plans so far as to exactly when I'm moving from city to city or where I'm staying and all that. Hopefully I'll know this before I leave, umm. I will probably be in Chicago October 28-Nov 3rd, and I'll definitely be there for the weekend at least. I had an event planned for the weekend but decided not to go because it looked cooler to just hang out in Chicago.
Heck yes it is. I've got two different Halloween parties that weekend, if you want to go to either with me, one queer and one just a free-for-all. I also don't know what my work schedule's going to be like, but I'll let you know as soon as I do.
How do you take care of yourself when you feel like shit, when you want a vacation from your own life and your own brain? 1. go on the internet (fanfic and lolcats!) 2. listen to music and sing along and dance 3. get on train, visit a different town or just go to Frankfurt 4. read a nice book 5. HTML a long as fuck post (like a fill list or something) 6. read about different languages, grammars,... 7. learn some things in a different language, even if it's just a few words 8. make tea and watch movies or TV series 9. syntax trees 10. sleep 11. writing-as-therapy kind of thing 12. buy cake and eat it
re: #2: YES YES YES this is why I have Cee Lo Green on my ipod. re: #6: I've been thinking about enrolling in language courses again. I'm weirdly good at learning new languages, but absolute crap at remembering to practice. re: #12: Ah ha ha, awesome. I think I'd be more likely to bake my own, but this. THIS.
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Fuck everything. Fuck everyone. I just wander off and do my thing. A shit, I do not give. There are in fact, no shits in my bag to hand out. I don't care if you cat caught fire, or if you wish to romance me with pineapples. This is my day and you can fuck the hell off.
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But yeah, I have those days too. I generally go spend them in large bookstores where nobody will notice the quiet nerd sitting in the corner, working their way through a stack of graphic novels.
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Also, making a small, positive change that's fairly easily accomplished. i.e. Cleaning up, taking a long walk/exercising a bit, cooking something a little ambitious instead of doing take out, finally organizing that pile of books on the floor. Little successes feel just as good as big ones, really, and it has the added benefit of making a part of your life better, as well as making you feel better.
Indulge in guilty pleasures. That horrendous romcom that you can't help but adore, a pint of ice cream, wandering around in your underwear, eating the whole box of cookies. :)))
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Also, thank you!
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Picking small tasks with clear results (make something easy, clean the bathroom) sometimes helps. So does going outside.
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Speaking of, are you still coming out here for a visit?
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1. go on the internet (fanfic and lolcats!)
2. listen to music and sing along and dance
3. get on train, visit a different town or just go to Frankfurt
4. read a nice book
5. HTML a long as fuck post (like a fill list or something)
6. read about different languages, grammars,...
7. learn some things in a different language, even if it's just a few words
8. make tea and watch movies or TV series
9. syntax trees
10. sleep
11. writing-as-therapy kind of thing
12. buy cake and eat it
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re: #6: I've been thinking about enrolling in language courses again. I'm weirdly good at learning new languages, but absolute crap at remembering to practice.
re: #12: Ah ha ha, awesome. I think I'd be more likely to bake my own, but this. THIS.
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