In honor of the Valentine's season...

[starlight_28]

(and early because I'm sure to forget about Valentine's Day altogether before the 14th,) something I saw on MySpace that struck a chord: For all my independence/self-reliance, all of the following statments are true (where the right guy is concerned anyway...)

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[woodisgoodcdl]

I can't decide if this depressed me or what. What's odd is that Angi and I discussed something similar to this and we came up with the following theory. It seems like most men look at women and all they see are the aren'ts where as women look at most men and see the are's. Did that make sense? Anyway, most men would do better to realize how important all the above is as compared to the ideal exterior of women they have in their heads.

I know what you mean...

[starlight_28]

I felt the same way when I first read it, but I think it had more to do with the fact that I don't think a lot of men see the dichotomy that exists in most women. I mean, I've never been a "need a man" kind of girl. I'm independent, self-reliant, and fine on my own. And I think that's the side of my personality that most guys see first...and I've been told (more than once, by more than one person)that it's pretty intimidating. And the truth is, there are more of us out there than there than most realize. But I'd guess that most of us are perfectly capable of being the sweet and caring "girlfriend" that any guy would be lucky to have....were he capable of seeing past the surface...

Re: I know what you mean...

[the_evil_git]

It is that 'intimidating' factor that adds to your mystique, at least to me. I'm not one for the clingy types, not that I'm opposed to intimacy, that is vital, but I prefer to engage a peer.

I also feel it is important that the guy be just as active in the relationship and not only in the traditional ways.

Re: I know what you mean...

[woodisgoodcdl]

Yeah, I fit the independent category myself. In the end, I need a man who is man enough to be with me and be all manly without being controlling. Marcell has confirmed this. Good luck to me. I think that older men are a bit more okay with women who are in control of themselves but those are harder to find also. It also has alot to do with self-confidence and men are lacking that in regards to women.

What really spurred our discussion in the beginning was that there are guys out there, who are your friends, who you either do or don't want more as a friend, that think you are totally awesome...as a friend. It's because these guys are looking for wives in the most basic sense. Women who will not be there friends but have their kids and leave them be during the football game and go shopping with their own friends. They don't want a companion. And what's sad is that alot of them don't even seem to realize that is what they are looking for in a woman.

[starlight_28]

Thanks, Jess! :o)

[anonymous]

I don't know you, but I was informed it was your birthday. So, Happy Birthday! May you have many lovely years.
-Kathleen