Learning Lessons (9/?) - Anon review replies
Okay, so I had a lot of reviews on FF.net that were anonymous and I feel like I should reply, even if only for my own piece of mind, so I’m posting my replies here and will mention it in a link in the next chapter. (I doubt I will do this every chapter in future but I just feel like I should for this chapter in particular).
As a lot of my reviewers know, I’m more than happy to enter into discussions about my fic and the issues it brings up. I’m not trying to argue, so much as propose different point of views for you to consider.
(The reviews are in bold so you know what I’m replying to)
From: Trixxy ()
Are you kidding BB? That was well worth the wait ! I absolutely adored it.
And it was a great length too. I really felt like I connected with each
characters view on the situation. Thanks for posting this.
I’m so glad you feel this way. Thanks for taking the time to review and let me know your thoughts
From: ()
I wholeheartedly agree with one of the previous posters (Lcrazmag - see below). One's belief in
monogamy doesn't make them selfish - at least not unreasonably so. Some people
just don't like sharing the one's they love with other people. If Quinn isn't
enough for Rachel, then she ought to break up with her, not force her to
succumb to a situation she is unhappy with. Polygamy isn't necessarily healthy
and many people don't subscribe to sharing their affections with their
significant other with someone else. Rachel ought to accept that and let Quinn
go so she can find happiness with someONE else
I agree that there are many people who do not believe in a polyamourous relationship, and I don’t think all people can successfully be in relationships with more than one person at a time. Ultimately, if Quinn is dead set against this, because of those or other reasons, then I agree that Rachel will need to make a decision, however the issue Rachel in particular had with Quinn’s reaction, was that she didn’t take the time to even think about it and immediately shut her down without taking Rachels own feelings into account. Rachel was not attempting to pressure Quinn as it were so much as get into a discussion about it.
Thanks for letting me know your thoughts and reviewing :)
From: MyTwoCents ()
I WOULD have too immediately shot down Rachel's proposal as soon as I hear
it. It's not something i would EVER consider. Sharing relationships isn't for
everyone. Why are they ganging up on Quinn and making it seem like she's being
unfair because she doesn't want to have a fourway relationship or even
consider it. What's to consider if you dont want it? It's not like they're
asking her to consider Honda over Toyota - kind of ridiculous and
shortsighted.
As I say above,I agree with you that polyamoury is not for everyone. However, I personally feel that if you care deeply for someone and they ask something of you then you give it due consideration and not just shut them down, imo. They are not trying to gang up on Quinn as it were, they just want her to think It through. Rachel is hurt because of Quinn immediately saying no to something that she herself had put a lot of thought and consideration into before even bringing it up, Santana is irritated by Quinns reaction and accusing her of lying about her feelings just to try get with Rachel. Brittany, yes, I’ll admit is pressuring her to a degree because she’s rooting for Pezberry, but she’s also just trying to get Quinn to see that Rachel and Santana’s feelings are there and won’t just disappear by saying no and ignoring them, she needs to deal with the fact that Rachel does have feelings for Santana and decide a way forward.
Just my thoughts; thanks for reviewing and letting me know yours.
This next one was signed but I thought people may be interested in the reply I sent.
From: Lcrazemag
I agree with Quinn.
I think that they are being quite unfair to her. It seems like they are trying to force her to agree when clearly she is uncomfortable with the situation and has already said no. I don't like that Rachel is angry.. what right has she got to be angry? She is basically saying, and I know that this stems from my own belief in monogamy, but she is in fact saying that she is unsatisfied with Quinn... that being with Quinn isn't enough. Otherwise, she wouldn't be searching for more. If she's not happy with Quinn she should break up with her, instead of selfishly trying to have her cake and eat it too. It would be different if Quinn was okay with the idea, but she isn't.. she was hurt by it. And instead of considering Quinn's feelings it seems like everyone is making her out to be the selfish one instead of realizing they are the ones who are begging for more. Quinn was happy with what she had.
This was a really good chapter
They are not trying to force Quinn into this, but rather get her to think about it properly rather than immediately shut down the idea.
Rachel is angry mainly because she's hurt that Quinn won't even consider what she's asking, even though it is important to her.
Rachel is not saying she's unsatisfied with Quinn, it actually has nothing to do with Quinn and I think this is the hardest thing to understand with polyamoury. Rachel is happy in her relationship, this is a completely separate thing between her and Santana.
All three girls are considering Quinns feelings, Rachel in particular and she is not trying to pressure Quinn into it, rather explain her own feelings and whats going on with her and ask Quinn to do the same. You're right, Quinn is not okay with the idea, but rather than discuss why she began to throw accusations and refuse to consider any one elses feelings.
You hit Quinns feelings on the head - she is happy where she is and doesn't want that to change, but things are going to change no matter what because of Rachels confession and Quinn needs to realise that.
Idk, just my opinion, hope it makes sense. Thanks for letting me know your thoughts :)
As a lot of my reviewers know, I’m more than happy to enter into discussions about my fic and the issues it brings up. I’m not trying to argue, so much as propose different point of views for you to consider.
(The reviews are in bold so you know what I’m replying to)
From: Trixxy ()
Are you kidding BB? That was well worth the wait ! I absolutely adored it.
And it was a great length too. I really felt like I connected with each
characters view on the situation. Thanks for posting this.
I’m so glad you feel this way. Thanks for taking the time to review and let me know your thoughts
From: ()
I wholeheartedly agree with one of the previous posters (Lcrazmag - see below). One's belief in
monogamy doesn't make them selfish - at least not unreasonably so. Some people
just don't like sharing the one's they love with other people. If Quinn isn't
enough for Rachel, then she ought to break up with her, not force her to
succumb to a situation she is unhappy with. Polygamy isn't necessarily healthy
and many people don't subscribe to sharing their affections with their
significant other with someone else. Rachel ought to accept that and let Quinn
go so she can find happiness with someONE else
I agree that there are many people who do not believe in a polyamourous relationship, and I don’t think all people can successfully be in relationships with more than one person at a time. Ultimately, if Quinn is dead set against this, because of those or other reasons, then I agree that Rachel will need to make a decision, however the issue Rachel in particular had with Quinn’s reaction, was that she didn’t take the time to even think about it and immediately shut her down without taking Rachels own feelings into account. Rachel was not attempting to pressure Quinn as it were so much as get into a discussion about it.
Thanks for letting me know your thoughts and reviewing :)
From: MyTwoCents ()
I WOULD have too immediately shot down Rachel's proposal as soon as I hear
it. It's not something i would EVER consider. Sharing relationships isn't for
everyone. Why are they ganging up on Quinn and making it seem like she's being
unfair because she doesn't want to have a fourway relationship or even
consider it. What's to consider if you dont want it? It's not like they're
asking her to consider Honda over Toyota - kind of ridiculous and
shortsighted.
As I say above,I agree with you that polyamoury is not for everyone. However, I personally feel that if you care deeply for someone and they ask something of you then you give it due consideration and not just shut them down, imo. They are not trying to gang up on Quinn as it were, they just want her to think It through. Rachel is hurt because of Quinn immediately saying no to something that she herself had put a lot of thought and consideration into before even bringing it up, Santana is irritated by Quinns reaction and accusing her of lying about her feelings just to try get with Rachel. Brittany, yes, I’ll admit is pressuring her to a degree because she’s rooting for Pezberry, but she’s also just trying to get Quinn to see that Rachel and Santana’s feelings are there and won’t just disappear by saying no and ignoring them, she needs to deal with the fact that Rachel does have feelings for Santana and decide a way forward.
Just my thoughts; thanks for reviewing and letting me know yours.
This next one was signed but I thought people may be interested in the reply I sent.
From: Lcrazemag
I agree with Quinn.
I think that they are being quite unfair to her. It seems like they are trying to force her to agree when clearly she is uncomfortable with the situation and has already said no. I don't like that Rachel is angry.. what right has she got to be angry? She is basically saying, and I know that this stems from my own belief in monogamy, but she is in fact saying that she is unsatisfied with Quinn... that being with Quinn isn't enough. Otherwise, she wouldn't be searching for more. If she's not happy with Quinn she should break up with her, instead of selfishly trying to have her cake and eat it too. It would be different if Quinn was okay with the idea, but she isn't.. she was hurt by it. And instead of considering Quinn's feelings it seems like everyone is making her out to be the selfish one instead of realizing they are the ones who are begging for more. Quinn was happy with what she had.
This was a really good chapter
They are not trying to force Quinn into this, but rather get her to think about it properly rather than immediately shut down the idea.
Rachel is angry mainly because she's hurt that Quinn won't even consider what she's asking, even though it is important to her.
Rachel is not saying she's unsatisfied with Quinn, it actually has nothing to do with Quinn and I think this is the hardest thing to understand with polyamoury. Rachel is happy in her relationship, this is a completely separate thing between her and Santana.
All three girls are considering Quinns feelings, Rachel in particular and she is not trying to pressure Quinn into it, rather explain her own feelings and whats going on with her and ask Quinn to do the same. You're right, Quinn is not okay with the idea, but rather than discuss why she began to throw accusations and refuse to consider any one elses feelings.
You hit Quinns feelings on the head - she is happy where she is and doesn't want that to change, but things are going to change no matter what because of Rachels confession and Quinn needs to realise that.
Idk, just my opinion, hope it makes sense. Thanks for letting me know your thoughts :)