Sexual Revolution- interlude
When trying to comprehend the psychological difference between men and women, we have some very useful models in our modern culture. The connection between advertising and the woman’s romantic mindset is instructive, and entirely comprehendible by anyone who lives in our culture, which is at this point a shadow cast by the advertising industry.
On a simple supply/demand level most women are used to dealing with a lot of OFFERS of potential partners, lays, and people to spend their time with. Men, who don’t deal with that kind of advertising pressure most of the time, find it easier to figure out what they want from women, simply because they have to have an idea about what they want and go out and get it, rather than accept or reject offers of it. Trying to work out what you want when you are being offered various specific things is very difficult, just as finding what you want, when its hard to tell what’s really out there, is very difficult. Women are irrational when it comes to sex because the offers that they get don't necessarily have anything do with what they want, and Men are irrational when it comes to sex because they have an image in their head of what they want, but no idea as to whether its really out there or not. Men end up judging the women in their lives according to standards set by an ideal. Women end up judging men according to their offers. The former ends up either deluding themselves or getting lost in fantasy-land, and the latter ends up subject to bullshit, posturing, and outright lies.
When it came to all of our other desires, (for goods, food, boats, etc.) men and women were the same: we had to figure out what we want and go out and get it. In the sexual model, however, there was a unique mindset created by the fact that the offer, accompanied by some exaggeration in the name of self-promotion, preceded the desire in the case of feminine sexuality. This has been the case for relations between men and women since spears and fire were a big deal.
It is interesting that our entire culture’s notion of how we understand our desires has changed, because of the rise of advertising by the corporate plutocracy, from a masculine model to a feminine model. I’m not using these psychological statements to try to disenfranchise people without penises, but you have to admit that the feminine model kind of sucks. Its a lot harder to figure out who you are and what you want. In the masculine model you might be afraid of who you are and you might want something that is difficult or impossible to attain (leading to repressed anger and frustration) but at least you have a goal.
More and more, as our cultural understanding of desire becomes increasingly feminized, and the reaction to that is to (in the case of both sexes) adopt the masculine model, we find that the gender divide between these paradigms is breaking down.
On a simple supply/demand level most women are used to dealing with a lot of OFFERS of potential partners, lays, and people to spend their time with. Men, who don’t deal with that kind of advertising pressure most of the time, find it easier to figure out what they want from women, simply because they have to have an idea about what they want and go out and get it, rather than accept or reject offers of it. Trying to work out what you want when you are being offered various specific things is very difficult, just as finding what you want, when its hard to tell what’s really out there, is very difficult. Women are irrational when it comes to sex because the offers that they get don't necessarily have anything do with what they want, and Men are irrational when it comes to sex because they have an image in their head of what they want, but no idea as to whether its really out there or not. Men end up judging the women in their lives according to standards set by an ideal. Women end up judging men according to their offers. The former ends up either deluding themselves or getting lost in fantasy-land, and the latter ends up subject to bullshit, posturing, and outright lies.
When it came to all of our other desires, (for goods, food, boats, etc.) men and women were the same: we had to figure out what we want and go out and get it. In the sexual model, however, there was a unique mindset created by the fact that the offer, accompanied by some exaggeration in the name of self-promotion, preceded the desire in the case of feminine sexuality. This has been the case for relations between men and women since spears and fire were a big deal.
It is interesting that our entire culture’s notion of how we understand our desires has changed, because of the rise of advertising by the corporate plutocracy, from a masculine model to a feminine model. I’m not using these psychological statements to try to disenfranchise people without penises, but you have to admit that the feminine model kind of sucks. Its a lot harder to figure out who you are and what you want. In the masculine model you might be afraid of who you are and you might want something that is difficult or impossible to attain (leading to repressed anger and frustration) but at least you have a goal.
More and more, as our cultural understanding of desire becomes increasingly feminized, and the reaction to that is to (in the case of both sexes) adopt the masculine model, we find that the gender divide between these paradigms is breaking down.