Its 1 am and-

May 23, 2006 00:46

I'm not sleeping again.

I'm a little lost you could say. On the one hand, I'm in love. Mike isn't living at the house anymore, and I think it's made all the difference. We're dating again. We're not married anymore and it feels good. What I love about being with him is that we constantly challenge ourselves to be better people. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship in which I've learned so much. I've grown with him, and I see it in Mike as well. We solidify our love and strengthen our relationship, as we better ourselves. I can understand people looking at us like we're unhealthy- that's okay. It's not my duty to prove that we're good for eachother.

I just find it ironic that the people criticizing us, happen to have horrible relationships. Shallow, deceitful, or nonexistent relationships. Why would I ever take relationship advice who enters their relationship saying, "He's probably going to cheat on me, but oh well."

Would you be curious to know whose relationship advice I follow exactly?


Maybe they look like idiots, but Dustin and Rachael have the healthiest, most loving relationship I've ever encountered. And I hang on Rachael's every word on how to make it work. Her criticisms- I understand. I take them in. Moreover, love is sustained by action- a pattern of devotion. We've made many mistakes separately and together (Moving in after less than a month of dating, cheating on him, ignoring me), but when it comes down to it, we'd fight fires for eachother. Ups and downs are bound to happen- some more severe than others. However, few things diminish the power of love. And forgiveness has to occur.

Maybe people should come to me for relationship advice.
Geez.

My dilemma is this- Megan is a super-confrontational person. It's not bad, it's just how she is. I love her, I love who she is. But, I don't remember that certain night fondly. Sneaking into the army barracks and getting trashed sounded appealing. I didn't plan on sleeping with anyone. But thats how it happened, and it damaged my relationship, luckily Mike and I were able to get past it (that forgiveness thing again). So when Megan speaks of it, with such womanlike vulgarity, "I'm not the one that dropped your pants and stuck Wilson's dick in your vag," I'm not okay with that.

Oh ha-ha. I'm glad we can all laugh at Mary. What a fun time.

I remember throughout many of my destructive friendships- I always seek for approval. That's why I broke up with Kris. "Kris is weird. Blah blah blah." But it ends here. I refuse to lose my love to feed some silly approval hunger.

My decisions are conscious, void of naivety, and thoughtful.

Good night.
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