Need to get this off my chest
Got this at the back of my mind for a few months now. The semi-confidentiality of the matter doesn't help either.
I won't go into details. A colleague at work, the only married one, was obviously having problems with her marriage. She was quite conservative compared to the rest. So it was quite a shock, at least for me, to learn that her husband was accusing her with adultery. The absurdity of the accusations is only surpassed by the nature of his suspicions.
For about two moths, she was taking days off. After that time, it turned out, the husband was going around collecting proof that she was cheating, or taking note of "every unaccounted minute of her time in which she could have gone and seen someone". His words. You see, he didn't have anything solid. One night during her leave, they called me to meet. I gladly agreed, thinking that things were looking up since they got together and wanted to talk to someone. (i am amazed by the magnitude of my own naivety)
After two hours in which i exhausted every argument and reasoning i had, he spilled that he was suspecting that she was leading a second life. Then he lost it. And i realized that he was expressing every fucking characteristics of full blown paranoia. Like the textbook, it was in front of me.
She admitted that he had been also hitting her at times. I can hardly describe what i felt right then. I parted saying that they go see a psychiatrist.
He wasn't also letting her leave home. Telling her not to be the one to go, because he surely doesn't want to divorce. Not to judge him with three months, but the eight years before that. Funny how he judged, accused and sentenced her with that three months.
Now, this is no different, or worse than the problems people have in their marriages. I still can not pinpoint what upset me. I can think of a few things though. They are both doctors. Quite wealthy compared to the population, well above the average. It still came and found them.
The week before, one afternoon she left home and went to her parents'. I have been keeping indirect contact with her. For the moment, she is adamant about not returning. The only thing i can do for her is pray to God. And i do.
I won't go into details. A colleague at work, the only married one, was obviously having problems with her marriage. She was quite conservative compared to the rest. So it was quite a shock, at least for me, to learn that her husband was accusing her with adultery. The absurdity of the accusations is only surpassed by the nature of his suspicions.
For about two moths, she was taking days off. After that time, it turned out, the husband was going around collecting proof that she was cheating, or taking note of "every unaccounted minute of her time in which she could have gone and seen someone". His words. You see, he didn't have anything solid. One night during her leave, they called me to meet. I gladly agreed, thinking that things were looking up since they got together and wanted to talk to someone. (i am amazed by the magnitude of my own naivety)
After two hours in which i exhausted every argument and reasoning i had, he spilled that he was suspecting that she was leading a second life. Then he lost it. And i realized that he was expressing every fucking characteristics of full blown paranoia. Like the textbook, it was in front of me.
She admitted that he had been also hitting her at times. I can hardly describe what i felt right then. I parted saying that they go see a psychiatrist.
He wasn't also letting her leave home. Telling her not to be the one to go, because he surely doesn't want to divorce. Not to judge him with three months, but the eight years before that. Funny how he judged, accused and sentenced her with that three months.
Now, this is no different, or worse than the problems people have in their marriages. I still can not pinpoint what upset me. I can think of a few things though. They are both doctors. Quite wealthy compared to the population, well above the average. It still came and found them.
The week before, one afternoon she left home and went to her parents'. I have been keeping indirect contact with her. For the moment, she is adamant about not returning. The only thing i can do for her is pray to God. And i do.