Catch them if you can

[stanyslava]

People watching is a lot like wildlife watching - you need to sit really quietly, almost motionless - the slightest eyebrow movement may scare them away, and listen very carefully. Everybody on the road has their story, and while many of these people would want to keep these stories to themselves back home, on the road they spill out like an

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[aite]

Headline news: "Spider monkey poops on bisexual. Stasya feels superior."

[stanyslava]

Not sure I understand you that well these days, but thanks anyway...

[aite]

I can get more clear, probably at the expense of politeness, or I can shut up. Any preferences?

[stanyslava]

Get clearer, just reed what you wrote first...
And for the record, why would I feel superior? I don't feel superior when somebody gets hurt, or hurts somebody in any way, I feel sad. I don't understand why the baseless accusation... might you be jumping to conclusions? but why? I don't know...

[aite]

You sound very preachy and very much like you look down on people like her. I'm not jumping to conclusions. You SOUND that way.

[stanyslava]

I SOUND sad. the whole thing is just sad. do I feel that this girl deserves feeling bad after cheating on her boyfriend that she described to me as the sweetest guy ever? yes, and you don't? well ok, if you don't, I guess our views on fidelity are just different, and I respect it. You are even welcome to join vdinets in his argument below ours..

[aite]

No, you sound rather judgmental, even now. Maybe sad, but as in "I am so sad this girl is such a screw-up." I have no opinion of what she deserves. I don't concern myself with issues like that.

I've been ascribed a peculiar set of views in your latest two posts: sexist, oppressive of women, and now my views on fidelity are in question. Huh...

[stanyslava]

well then don't make yourself SOUND like they are... :)

[aite]

You mean I sound sexist? To whom, to you? To some joker among your friends?

Ok, I'm going with the option of not making myself sound like anything in your journals.

[stanyslava]

Now you are sounding like you are mad with me and feeling too superior to explain to me why I deserve this.

[ex_marmir959]

Let me chime in. What you said can be roughly translated as "those poor idiots, they make wrong choices; if they only had my wisdom, they'd know what to do". That's judgmental.

[stanyslava]

no, :) I'm saying: "those poor idiots, they make wrong choices; wish they didn't..."

[ex_marmir959]

By saying this, you're appointing yourself the arbiter of what the right behavior is. You believe that the facts you poccess are enough to determine if one has acted appropriately under the circumstances. So yes, you are saying essentially that you are smarter and wiser than they are.