What the hell is feminism anyway?
In my love of documentaries, I was watching one about the women's right movement. It started with the early years of the 60's, they interviewed all these wonderful older women who were active in that time, many of them still are and their courage and their bravery was hugely inspiring to me.
They had convictions that were so important for the time, and all them gave me that feeling that they were well-rounded women, who loved life and had ideas and loved and and tried and failed and won. Basically they seemed like super-heroes to me, super-heroines, really. And they did make me feel like there were still things to fight for and to improve upon and like I am often taking things for granted that they fought so hard for.
But then I saw the last part of the documentary, which focussed on today's feminist movement - and that just made me so angry. They are basically women who protest against the sexual objectification about women - that really seems to be it. They are anti-porn, anti-prostitution, they protest against rape and domestic violence, and basically they sit around griping about how terrible men are. Men aren't even allowed to join their group, as though they would ruin it or as though this isn't an issue that concerns them at all.
I mean, of course rape is an important issue, as is domestic violence, but these things are already illegal and while you might argue about the procedures that go on and all, it all just paints a certain picture of men and women that I just hate. Them: Predators, Us: Victims. And here is the deal, I never see men making me feel like a victim at all - it's women like that who victimize us and who make us feel like we have to fear men.
I am not a victim, I refuse to be one and I hate how some women are made victim by men as they are - but there are men who are made victims too, my other man and by women. This is not soley a women's problem and I don't know what men they socialize with but none of the ones I know and like are anything like that predator picture the femists paint at all. In fact I know many men who call themselves feminists.
And then there is that matter of porn and prostitution. Saym porn, everybody knows women are objectified in porn, but really, so are the men. I mean porn is just sexist, none of them men are like men really are, porn is sexis and racists and all kinds of things, but it serves a ertain purpose - it gets people off, that's all. And I simply don't buy into that myth that men expect women to be like women in porn. And I don't buy into the myth that women are so much better: Hello, my name is Laila and I enjoy looking at naked men and women. I will admit that maybe most women tend to have more aestetic standards when it comes to that, while the mere fact of nudity seems to be enough for a lot of guys, but we do the same thing.
Also, men earn like a third of what women earn in porn - now who's exploited?
Oh yes, and men are terrible because they see women as something that can be bought, ordered like a pizza. Well, first off there are men in the sex-trade too, but I just want to charge these feminists to actually talk to some protitutes - I mean, its obviously not an awesome job and when there is force involved or drugs then its obviously a bad thing (but again, then its already illegal), but when its just someone making some money - who are they to judge them for it? Or the men who pay them for it? Because in theirt mind, men are so horrible, the only reason they could ever pay a prostitute is because they are disgusting and horrible and cruel and objectifying.
It just bothers me - really bothers me, how they paint men and how they paint women. I am femists but I enjoy my sexuality and men's sexuality, I enjoy nudity and I don't look at every man as a potential fucking rapist.
They had convictions that were so important for the time, and all them gave me that feeling that they were well-rounded women, who loved life and had ideas and loved and and tried and failed and won. Basically they seemed like super-heroes to me, super-heroines, really. And they did make me feel like there were still things to fight for and to improve upon and like I am often taking things for granted that they fought so hard for.
But then I saw the last part of the documentary, which focussed on today's feminist movement - and that just made me so angry. They are basically women who protest against the sexual objectification about women - that really seems to be it. They are anti-porn, anti-prostitution, they protest against rape and domestic violence, and basically they sit around griping about how terrible men are. Men aren't even allowed to join their group, as though they would ruin it or as though this isn't an issue that concerns them at all.
I mean, of course rape is an important issue, as is domestic violence, but these things are already illegal and while you might argue about the procedures that go on and all, it all just paints a certain picture of men and women that I just hate. Them: Predators, Us: Victims. And here is the deal, I never see men making me feel like a victim at all - it's women like that who victimize us and who make us feel like we have to fear men.
I am not a victim, I refuse to be one and I hate how some women are made victim by men as they are - but there are men who are made victims too, my other man and by women. This is not soley a women's problem and I don't know what men they socialize with but none of the ones I know and like are anything like that predator picture the femists paint at all. In fact I know many men who call themselves feminists.
And then there is that matter of porn and prostitution. Saym porn, everybody knows women are objectified in porn, but really, so are the men. I mean porn is just sexist, none of them men are like men really are, porn is sexis and racists and all kinds of things, but it serves a ertain purpose - it gets people off, that's all. And I simply don't buy into that myth that men expect women to be like women in porn. And I don't buy into the myth that women are so much better: Hello, my name is Laila and I enjoy looking at naked men and women. I will admit that maybe most women tend to have more aestetic standards when it comes to that, while the mere fact of nudity seems to be enough for a lot of guys, but we do the same thing.
Also, men earn like a third of what women earn in porn - now who's exploited?
Oh yes, and men are terrible because they see women as something that can be bought, ordered like a pizza. Well, first off there are men in the sex-trade too, but I just want to charge these feminists to actually talk to some protitutes - I mean, its obviously not an awesome job and when there is force involved or drugs then its obviously a bad thing (but again, then its already illegal), but when its just someone making some money - who are they to judge them for it? Or the men who pay them for it? Because in theirt mind, men are so horrible, the only reason they could ever pay a prostitute is because they are disgusting and horrible and cruel and objectifying.
It just bothers me - really bothers me, how they paint men and how they paint women. I am femists but I enjoy my sexuality and men's sexuality, I enjoy nudity and I don't look at every man as a potential fucking rapist.