Sarah's Thoughts...wow... quite a mix of topics!
anonymous
December 28 2005, 21:29:54 UTC
it's wonderful that you have such an awesome relationship with Mary and your mom... too bad that it's not the same for your relationship with your dad. i had no idea about how you had to prettymuch raise your cousin. no wonder you have an aversion to having kids of your own. when you're forced to deal with consequences that are not of your own doing, that changes your perspective. that's sad that you see many flaws in the way that your sister and brother-in-law have been raising your niece. by the same token, it helps further solidify in your own mind now you will run your own family. but what a hard way to learn it. and because the role of parent was forced on you, your thinking has been unfortunately colored negatively. it's always easier to love kids when you know in the back of your mind that you can hand them back to the parents after you're done playing with them. a high schooler has no business having to raise a child when 1) they are not even your own and 2) you're dealing with all the things that come with being a teenager and the added responsibility of a kid along with all the other things on your full plate, socially, emotionally, academically,and physically. children are for people who know how to manage their time and can care for their children in the manner that they are supposed to be cared for. sadly, a great many people have children that are not responsible. you know that better than anyone, for you've had to deal with that on a number of levels. Children should be conceived within the bonds of a Christ- centered marriage with the full recognition that they are a responsibility and gift from God. this gift must be kept with the greatest of care, for they are very impressionable and need the guidance of godly parents that they might grow into the servants of God that He so intends them to be. i think i've preached enough now. i'm tired.
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