*Sigh*
So had my first argument with Aiden today... Don't know how to feel about it now...
It was over a really stupid reason at the time, but bear with me, I'm not angry about that right now...
So I go onto facebook with him next to me, and mention again that I don't like the fact he is on the site as "Aiden" and not his real name, I said as a joke why not just turn on maximum privacy settings if you don't want any one to find you... And he did, all the while I was sitting next to him and saying things like "This really bothers me" or "This really goes against my idea of what facebook is supposed to be for"...
The main thing that bothered me at the time was how he was setting it to no one could find him, he had to find you first. In my mind, and I told him this, makes me view you as either a "Loner" or someone who feels better then everyone else, and *they* have to be the ones to approve your friendship, or something like that. It makes it look like you put yourself up on a pedestal and like, they have to be the one to find you first and deem you appropriate enough to friend you. That's just my view on it and why I don't like it.
Now he has some legit reasons why he was doing it, For example, he doesn't want potential job employers or any of his professors viewing his profile. This wouldn't bother me if he changed these settings like a week or month before he went out to get a job, but the fact that he installed the setting for full time just bothered me...
We normally hang out for an hour on thursdays... but 20 minutes or so we just sat in silence before I left early... I felt bad for doing it, but during the 20 minutes, I realized that he never once tried to comfort me when I was saying things like "This really bother me". He just kept on going and he even said something like "Well if that's your view on me, oh well" when I told him what those settings meant to me.
So I come back now, feeling a bit better and wanting to talk about it, half hoping he'd realise that he hurt me by not leaning my way an inch when I was saying how much it bothered me... Only to find out he fully canceled his facebook account, I can't find him anywhere on it and all links that led to him before are now not links at all...
I dunno... thoughts?
It was over a really stupid reason at the time, but bear with me, I'm not angry about that right now...
So I go onto facebook with him next to me, and mention again that I don't like the fact he is on the site as "Aiden" and not his real name, I said as a joke why not just turn on maximum privacy settings if you don't want any one to find you... And he did, all the while I was sitting next to him and saying things like "This really bothers me" or "This really goes against my idea of what facebook is supposed to be for"...
The main thing that bothered me at the time was how he was setting it to no one could find him, he had to find you first. In my mind, and I told him this, makes me view you as either a "Loner" or someone who feels better then everyone else, and *they* have to be the ones to approve your friendship, or something like that. It makes it look like you put yourself up on a pedestal and like, they have to be the one to find you first and deem you appropriate enough to friend you. That's just my view on it and why I don't like it.
Now he has some legit reasons why he was doing it, For example, he doesn't want potential job employers or any of his professors viewing his profile. This wouldn't bother me if he changed these settings like a week or month before he went out to get a job, but the fact that he installed the setting for full time just bothered me...
We normally hang out for an hour on thursdays... but 20 minutes or so we just sat in silence before I left early... I felt bad for doing it, but during the 20 minutes, I realized that he never once tried to comfort me when I was saying things like "This really bother me". He just kept on going and he even said something like "Well if that's your view on me, oh well" when I told him what those settings meant to me.
So I come back now, feeling a bit better and wanting to talk about it, half hoping he'd realise that he hurt me by not leaning my way an inch when I was saying how much it bothered me... Only to find out he fully canceled his facebook account, I can't find him anywhere on it and all links that led to him before are now not links at all...
I dunno... thoughts?