regarding "spring cleaning"

[ssstephaniem]

It is really starting to play out like a popularity contest.

In my situation, i didn't post for so long because I was seriously depressed for awhile last year. So depressed about stuff that I couldn't bring myself to keep up on journals. I missed out on entire pregnancies due to my inability to be happy for others because I felt so hurt inside that

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[le_brdsmaid]

First of all, sorry to hear about your depression, but happy that you're doing better now! I just wanted to say I hear you and I understand what you're saying and what you went through. I haven't posted in a while but I still read along and of course I too have been dropped from a few FL... So it does feel like a popularity contest at times but whatever, I'm happy with who I have on my FL and I respect those people and try to comment when I can. I was hoping you could clarify this: I just find it really interesting that LJers will remove people who have fallen out of the loop for various reasons(such as myself) much sooner(if ever) than people who rarely ever reply in their journals let alone post in their own journal. That is so hypocritical. I am just not clear on what is the difference that you're referring to, people who have fallen out of the lop are just people who don't post in their own journals (or anyone else's), right?

[ssstephaniem]

about the comment you had trouble understanding -- I had major trouble writing it because, 1. i was completely swamped at work as I was writing it in a hurry and, 2. I was momentarily pissed off! What I meant was that some people disappear for the longest time and never post in their own journals or anyone elses....yet others will keep them on simply because they are 'popular' and not so much because they have a special connection. In my case I fell out of the loop even though i was a regular commenter, and I was suddenly removed from at least 5 lists of people I really liked.

I swear I am totally over it but if anyone else removes me, I am going to go ape shit.

See, I totally like you...and I haven't seen a post from you in the longest time! There is no way I would remove you because I feel we 'get along'...when you're around, that is ;o)

[le_brdsmaid]

Thanks for clarifying this comment, it makes sense now, and I do agree. I think part of the popularity has to do with the fact that some people are better, more engaging writers than others - so hence they get more comments and stay on other's FL longer. And a few times I've seen posts from people saying "and I have some thoughts on spring cleaning which I'll post tomorrow" - and tomorrow I'm gone from their FL! Which, as I said, I understand, it's fine with me, just a bit funny :)

In our little LJ community where we are so open about TTC, illnesses, various feminine issues - some things like FLs are still "taboo", yet everyone's obviously thinking about it, from what I can tell on my (very limited, LOL!) FL today.

And I think this whole hoopla made me want to revive my journal - we'll see if my desire actually translates into action.

[ssstephaniem]

i respect whatever reasons you have for not posting. whether it be because you don't have the free time or you just don't feel up to it. i feel like we have a connection so you're not going anywhere when it comes to my FL. But seriously...the last things I remember you posting was a trip to Mt. Zion and also waiting for your mini cooper....which I suspect you have it by now!!!!!!

[le_brdsmaid]

Haha, Zion Park was for Matt's 30th bday and he just turned 32 a month ago, and our MINI Cooper is almost 2 years old, so it HAS been a while :) Hopefully I'll have more regular updates from now on!