Are People People?
85 percent of men between twenty and thirty, think of sex every 52 seconds. Women from the same sample age only think about it once a day. Hence, the limiting factor on the frequency of having sex for most heterosexual men, is that the women decline. If you then consider homosexual men, then the chance of getting a rejection is much lower. Which explains why many people see gay men as only being driven by sex.
At the same time, the gay scene in Singapore is very one-dimensional. Look fit and young, and you will pull. Show your age, and get shown the door. Yet, I do know of people into many alternative scenes in Singapore. From S&M to bears, from watersports to rubber. They tend to congregate in private, since the gay mainstream tends to see them as freaks. I wonder why such groups are so alienated by the gay mainstream? Is it just an extention to homophobes not knowing any gays personally? That it is the unknown that they are fearful about? Perhaps it is the many taboos that have been instilled in Singaporeans.
Spoke to a friend about love yesterday. It seems that most gays see love as dominated by sex. Perhaps it is linked to the frequency at which they think about sex. However, I still think that it is rather shallow to use sex to define a relationship, just like I do not think that gay is what defines me. I may be gay, but I am much more than that, and being gay is only a facet of the person I am. In the same way, while I like gay sex, it should not be the only expression of a relationship. Many have expressed confusion about this, but just like the elephant is not defined by its trunk, I think a gay love relationship is not defined by just sex alone.
At the same time, the gay scene in Singapore is very one-dimensional. Look fit and young, and you will pull. Show your age, and get shown the door. Yet, I do know of people into many alternative scenes in Singapore. From S&M to bears, from watersports to rubber. They tend to congregate in private, since the gay mainstream tends to see them as freaks. I wonder why such groups are so alienated by the gay mainstream? Is it just an extention to homophobes not knowing any gays personally? That it is the unknown that they are fearful about? Perhaps it is the many taboos that have been instilled in Singaporeans.
Spoke to a friend about love yesterday. It seems that most gays see love as dominated by sex. Perhaps it is linked to the frequency at which they think about sex. However, I still think that it is rather shallow to use sex to define a relationship, just like I do not think that gay is what defines me. I may be gay, but I am much more than that, and being gay is only a facet of the person I am. In the same way, while I like gay sex, it should not be the only expression of a relationship. Many have expressed confusion about this, but just like the elephant is not defined by its trunk, I think a gay love relationship is not defined by just sex alone.