here we go....
Well so i really stink at these things, but i really want somewhere to vent.....so i am going to start my first post with a comment i made to my best friend, as well as her response...because lately i really have been feeling the pressure, mostly internally...so here it goes:
my thoughts:
you know, I think there is to much pressure on love these days, and finding the right one, and the whole divorce rate and issue, and kids not being in a single family.....i know we all dont want to be divorced, and dont want to raise kids by ourself...but how do we deal with the pressure, is the pressure causing more harm than good?
Sweettink81's response/thoughts:
the pressure is god awful. I really really hate pressure and I get it from many angles. And then when I do the right things in the right order, certain people still think I am wasting my life... it is a no win situation... Pressure sucks. And society as a whole sucks. Idealy, we want people to marry, then have sex, then have baby, then live happily ever after... now everyone comments about how younger people (18-19) are only marrying to be able to have sex... is that the order we were raised though?? so really, they want you to be 30 something, completely independent and then marry. Problem is, now you are independent and can do it on your own... and having a child is dangerous because you are getting up there in the ages and the longer you wait, the harder it is...
so what do you do??? get an online journal and bitch about the choices you make and allow others to cheer you up!
my thoughts:
you know, I think there is to much pressure on love these days, and finding the right one, and the whole divorce rate and issue, and kids not being in a single family.....i know we all dont want to be divorced, and dont want to raise kids by ourself...but how do we deal with the pressure, is the pressure causing more harm than good?
Sweettink81's response/thoughts:
the pressure is god awful. I really really hate pressure and I get it from many angles. And then when I do the right things in the right order, certain people still think I am wasting my life... it is a no win situation... Pressure sucks. And society as a whole sucks. Idealy, we want people to marry, then have sex, then have baby, then live happily ever after... now everyone comments about how younger people (18-19) are only marrying to be able to have sex... is that the order we were raised though?? so really, they want you to be 30 something, completely independent and then marry. Problem is, now you are independent and can do it on your own... and having a child is dangerous because you are getting up there in the ages and the longer you wait, the harder it is...
so what do you do??? get an online journal and bitch about the choices you make and allow others to cheer you up!