FREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
I posted something on Myspace.
"Freedom in Christ (it's free!)"
If your interested, please read.
www.myspace.com/tayzha
"Sometimes, everything is the reversed opposite of what it seems."
My grandparent's have been married for 44 years. Amazing. I never want to divorce. Ever. When I get married, he WILL be the one. I'm tired of people thinking, "Well, if it doesn't work out, we can just get a divorce." Marriage is just thrown arround so causually, it's lost it's sacredness. Divorce is common (common is an understatement).
When married couples don't get along anymore, the "d" word suddenly comes up. People think, "Oh it will be better for the children, they don't need to see the fighting." But how healthy is it for children to witness seperation from a committed relationship? I do understand some instances where divorce is okay: when a spouce cheats and when there is abuse and intervention does not help. Reasons such as, "We just don't love each other anymore" does not carry any validity to me. Love is not just some hyped emotion you feel after making love. It's a choice you have to make daily.
Whatever happened to committment, to sincere devotion? Whatever happened to dedication? I'm worried about this generation. Sure, we have wonderful grandparents NOW, wise in their years. In their generation, divorce was nearly unheard of, which I consider to be a good thing.
The conversation with my grandma today went something like this. "Happy Anniversay Grandma!" "Oh thank you sweetheart." "It's been fourty-four years Grandma." "I know, it wasn't easy. It gets harder with time."
Now, you may be thinking of your grandparents who bicker and quarrel. Mine do. Why are they still married? There has to be a reason why they are still together. There is an irreplaceable bond comes through the perseverance of marriage.
So what about our generation? Is marriage going to be more than an excuse to dress up in a tailored white gown, and honeymoon to some exotic place such as the Carribeans? Will it be our INTENT, our heart's desire to be married with our spouce the rest of our lives? Will we lose our passion one day and suddenly give up? When we sign our names on the certificate of marriage, will our hands feel any hesitation?
I'm gonna pick a good one. I will be picky. I'm not saying this in any prissy sort of sense. I just don't want to persue little "flings" with random guys. There's no point.
Girls, I advice you to be very picky with your boyfriend selection. Consider yourself a princess and deserving of the very best for you. If he treats you like crap, don't tolerate it. If you think your going to "change him," most likely, your not (sorry to brake it to you) --I think we're all guilty of this. In God's eyes, you ARE a princess, and he wants the BEST for you. This means, you won't need to change anything about him. He will treat you with the upmost respect, honor, and dignity. He will call you "beautiful" and "gorgeous." He won't think your fat. He will love all the curves of your body. He will want to know you for who you are, your soul. He would do anything to protect you, he would die for your safety. He will be absolutely captivated by your beauty.
I know that somewhere, out there, there is a wonderful, wonderful man for me. And I know that each and every one of you reading this has someone in this world who wishes to have someone just like you.
P.S. I know some of you reading this may question the reality of this "wonderful man." You may think I set too many expectations. You may be a guy yourself and think, "This wonder man must be a softy with no testosterone."
My responce is this:
I believe that we must choose very wisely in who we marry. I plan on marrying for life. Therefore, I need to know that I'm going to be with someone who values me, respects me, can lead me, etc. I don't think there's anything wrong with being choosy over a spouce. If we weren't choosy, then our marriages would most likely end with divorce, which is the point I am trying to get across.