Porn is to men what Fairy Tales are to women...
They create increased levels of self entitlement and unrealistic expectations of the others.
Look at straight porn - Its targeted to guys, so it's all about the woman since thats who straight men are looking at. It doesn't matter what the guy in the film is doing or what he looks like, because even with a fat gut, excess body hair and the personality of a sponge, the woman is having the time of her life.... The adolescent male grows up to think his very touch is going to send her into the throws of ecstasy.
Romantic comedies.....?
They're just tired and rewritten fairy tales. Some quiet achiever, unpopular chick or outcast is either swept off her feet by some guywho doesn't immediately see her inner beauty - but no amount of money can hide it when he does (There is always money... what a shock). Or its the version where the Girl realises her best friend or neighbour was the perfect match. But since he was probably just unpopular, he studied hard and became ridiculously successful- but ready to give it all away in the name of happiness (wow, money again - surely this proves it's fiction?). Being the total non-expert that I am, I will offer some advice anyway.
It's all designed to confuse the sexes and instil a belief that men and woman must be entirely different species... Really it all just comes down to - men are visual and want women to paint the picture so they understand, women are emotional and want men to read between the lines to prove how much they care....
Women - It's just not going to happen - Fairy Tales are a lie. You want the guy that adds something different to the monotony of daily life. But you wanna stay with the guy that compliments/eases the pressure of your important duties in life. If the guy was always out to impress you and was spontaneous - you'd get annoyed and call him immature - what you do is important and he "needs to settle down" or "mature". If they were settled and mature, you'd want excitement. Make up your damn minds! If you want someone to do something completely out of character just to validate how they feel about you - you are going to be very disappointed. Most guys wouldn't mind putting in the occasional effort and do, but since women can turn "forgetting to pick up a shirt" into an insult; when he picks up the shirt he assumes it's a gesture of love. If that gesture goes unnoticed when he does it - you are sending mixed messages.
Ladies, I know what you're thinking: The shirt was just one example and it's a lot of small things - Paint the whole picture; you're going to have to say it all. Otherwise he is thinking that something he has always done and has never been an issue is suddenly starting to piss you off. If you don't tell him what it is and assume he should read between the lines and get it all.. - after 30 seconds what he has read in between the lines is that you're a crazy bitch. It might help to remember that porn is built on the subconscious yet poorly executed understanding that men want to please women. Unfortunately since it's porn, it's teaching them that women can only be pleased with great sex (which I guess could be valid...)
Men - Porn is going to tell you that you are awesome and hopefully you'll land that supermodel. When you do, you'll satisfy her completely. Maybe she has a girlfriend she wants to join in as well - because thats never awkward for friends. Sorry fellas, It's not gonna happen, though if it's any consolation - porn will always be there. If you're in a relationship and she is angry and won't say why, chances are it's because she's asked you to do a something or pick something up. It could've been a week ago or half an hour ago, but during that time she has listed about 30 times more things in her head that she has done making you the bad guy. Unfortunately, by this point she has interpreted your inaction to "you don't appreciate her" or "you don't care about her". If she's not the bat-shit crazy type who has constant demands, try and put some effort into remembering some of the shit she's says.
Oh and as a disclaimer - It could also be a possibility that porn is for educational purposes only and romantic comedies are based on real life.....
Look at straight porn - Its targeted to guys, so it's all about the woman since thats who straight men are looking at. It doesn't matter what the guy in the film is doing or what he looks like, because even with a fat gut, excess body hair and the personality of a sponge, the woman is having the time of her life.... The adolescent male grows up to think his very touch is going to send her into the throws of ecstasy.
Romantic comedies.....?
They're just tired and rewritten fairy tales. Some quiet achiever, unpopular chick or outcast is either swept off her feet by some guywho doesn't immediately see her inner beauty - but no amount of money can hide it when he does (There is always money... what a shock). Or its the version where the Girl realises her best friend or neighbour was the perfect match. But since he was probably just unpopular, he studied hard and became ridiculously successful- but ready to give it all away in the name of happiness (wow, money again - surely this proves it's fiction?). Being the total non-expert that I am, I will offer some advice anyway.
It's all designed to confuse the sexes and instil a belief that men and woman must be entirely different species... Really it all just comes down to - men are visual and want women to paint the picture so they understand, women are emotional and want men to read between the lines to prove how much they care....
Women - It's just not going to happen - Fairy Tales are a lie. You want the guy that adds something different to the monotony of daily life. But you wanna stay with the guy that compliments/eases the pressure of your important duties in life. If the guy was always out to impress you and was spontaneous - you'd get annoyed and call him immature - what you do is important and he "needs to settle down" or "mature". If they were settled and mature, you'd want excitement. Make up your damn minds! If you want someone to do something completely out of character just to validate how they feel about you - you are going to be very disappointed. Most guys wouldn't mind putting in the occasional effort and do, but since women can turn "forgetting to pick up a shirt" into an insult; when he picks up the shirt he assumes it's a gesture of love. If that gesture goes unnoticed when he does it - you are sending mixed messages.
Ladies, I know what you're thinking: The shirt was just one example and it's a lot of small things - Paint the whole picture; you're going to have to say it all. Otherwise he is thinking that something he has always done and has never been an issue is suddenly starting to piss you off. If you don't tell him what it is and assume he should read between the lines and get it all.. - after 30 seconds what he has read in between the lines is that you're a crazy bitch. It might help to remember that porn is built on the subconscious yet poorly executed understanding that men want to please women. Unfortunately since it's porn, it's teaching them that women can only be pleased with great sex (which I guess could be valid...)
Men - Porn is going to tell you that you are awesome and hopefully you'll land that supermodel. When you do, you'll satisfy her completely. Maybe she has a girlfriend she wants to join in as well - because thats never awkward for friends. Sorry fellas, It's not gonna happen, though if it's any consolation - porn will always be there. If you're in a relationship and she is angry and won't say why, chances are it's because she's asked you to do a something or pick something up. It could've been a week ago or half an hour ago, but during that time she has listed about 30 times more things in her head that she has done making you the bad guy. Unfortunately, by this point she has interpreted your inaction to "you don't appreciate her" or "you don't care about her". If she's not the bat-shit crazy type who has constant demands, try and put some effort into remembering some of the shit she's says.
Oh and as a disclaimer - It could also be a possibility that porn is for educational purposes only and romantic comedies are based on real life.....