I've never heard of Double Depression, and I'm a therapist. Do they mean Major Depression? Or is it like a double rainbow? Or a chocolate chocolate chip Frappiccino? I say, if you are really miserable, it's sensible to take meds. You can stop when you think you might be able to go it on your own, or you can keep on them for a long time.
I think getting a psych eval ordered in a custody dispute will probably be very hard. And I suspect that psychologists will not want to dx sociopathy unless there is a lot of criminal and sadistic behavior to point to; it's a very damning dx and there isn't really a test for it, except behavioral interviewing.
Where I live, mostly custody is joint if the parents live near each other, with primary physical custody going to the mother and the father having alt weekends and Wednesday nights. It's just the standard deal. If they don't live nearby, the dad usually has a bunch of weeks in the summer. It's unusual for a dad to be able to wrest custody from a mom unless she has really egregious problems, like she's in jail, or rehab, or living with a convicted child abuser. Around here, if dad has custody, it's because the mom gave it voluntarily. I'm in Virginia. Hope that helps.
Double depression is having dysthymia (chronic low grade depression lasting at least 2 years with no more than a month or two at a time without symptoms. Think Eeyore.) while also having major depression. I didn't know it was a thing until now. I'm definitely going to get on meds, its just going to take some time, and I remain apprehensive.
Yeah. I talked to an attorney and he said the same. I can request it, but since there's no police reports or anything documenting abuse it won't be likely. I also probably won't need an attorney unless one of us tries to dispute it or something.
I am hoping that's how it will go. I just want to be listed as the primary guardian to prevent him from trying to take C away. I don't mind if W sees C. That can happen anytime as long as it doesn't interfere with school or our extracurriculars. And as long as C wants to. I also want to ensure C is safe while with his dad. I don't want his dad to have all his girlfriends over and around C and I want his parents to adhere to certain guidelines if they ever have to watch C. (Which they do.) Like not smoking in the house or around c and making sure C has his own bed to sleep in. (Last I was aware C who is 9 had to sleep in their bed. Ew.) So nothing unreasonable, I don't think.
I think getting a psych eval ordered in a custody dispute will probably be very hard. And I suspect that psychologists will not want to dx sociopathy unless there is a lot of criminal and sadistic behavior to point to; it's a very damning dx and there isn't really a test for it, except behavioral interviewing.
Where I live, mostly custody is joint if the parents live near each other, with primary physical custody going to the mother and the father having alt weekends and Wednesday nights. It's just the standard deal. If they don't live nearby, the dad usually has a bunch of weeks in the summer. It's unusual for a dad to be able to wrest custody from a mom unless she has really egregious problems, like she's in jail, or rehab, or living with a convicted child abuser. Around here, if dad has custody, it's because the mom gave it voluntarily. I'm in Virginia. Hope that helps.
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Yeah. I talked to an attorney and he said the same. I can request it, but since there's no police reports or anything documenting abuse it won't be likely. I also probably won't need an attorney unless one of us tries to dispute it or something.
I am hoping that's how it will go. I just want to be listed as the primary guardian to prevent him from trying to take C away. I don't mind if W sees C. That can happen anytime as long as it doesn't interfere with school or our extracurriculars. And as long as C wants to. I also want to ensure C is safe while with his dad. I don't want his dad to have all his girlfriends over and around C and I want his parents to adhere to certain guidelines if they ever have to watch C. (Which they do.) Like not smoking in the house or around c and making sure C has his own bed to sleep in. (Last I was aware C who is 9 had to sleep in their bed. Ew.) So nothing unreasonable, I don't think.
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